My ex “K” just broke up with me. She said she would like to still be friends, though, and since the breakup was friendly, I gladly said I was fine with that.
Haven’t seen any of them in like 6 years, maybe more
We still talk occasionally. Sometimes I think he thinks we should hook up. Sometimes I think we should hook up. But then I remember how stinky he was and gag a little bit and move on again.
Apparently one time, a guy saw us together in his apartment hallway just walking to the elevator, and later told my ex that we had a visible aura. Which is cool, I guess. But it might have just been a stink cloud from my ex.
Very rarely. Sometimes there’s the occasional hookup involved.
No, we ended for a reason. Like her being a cheating bitch. Or we just were going different places and that’s okay but I see no need to force a friendship where one doesn’t need to be.
Me and my ex wife get along better now than we did when we were married
You both need a time off, stop or make interactions really “rational and controlled”. It takes time to shift to different dynamic between you two.
Once you both (or at least one of you) get new partners, things will be more promising for a genuine friendship.
Otherwise, lingering feelings or “emotionally weak” days seriously risk ruining the relationship and make things permanently awkward.
source: my own experience. I am best friends with my ex. And lived the process myself.
Yeah, theres some I don’t talk to but they wee like 2 month things or it was a really long time back. Still really good friends with one that I had a long time thing with and based on what I learned the hard way despite us still being pals is…give like at least 4-6 months of agreed upon no contact. Going to friend mode right after is rife with issues.
not really anymore, but only for usually drifting apart from old friends reasons. it is hard (for me) to maintain friendships when the other party lives thousands of kilometers away, and everyone is too poor and busy to travel.
No but not due to hostility. We just don’t talk anymore the way you don’t talk to some old friends anymore, ie just drifted apart. All my breakups have luckily been amicable.
No
Yeah, just one. He left me for religious reasons (we’re both men). Took me a long time to actually get over him, but I moved on and married and such. The three of us hang out sometimes.
I do kinda wish I could convince him to be a little less religiously wacky. Oh well.
I know so many people in the community in relationships with religious wackos. What’s going on there?
I cannot speak for others. My ex was not religious when I met him. I feel like my experience isn’t similar to what you’ve encountered.
They generally become acquaintances. There’s no hostility, but also way less of a reason to catch up and hang out.
Yeah, I’m friends with 2, we were in a poly relationship and I quit. My mentall health was awful which was affecting my relationships with them, so I distanced away for like 2 years. Now we speak regularly, share some news and stories, they even wanna invite me to their wedding, I’m so happy for them🥹
Yes but we’re not « good » friends. We saw each other occasionally at best
In your situation I’ll say give it 2-4 years before becoming friend with your ex
I have been for quite a few of them. We’ve fallen out of contact now. I think it’s a good thing to be. But if either of you are heart broken, you need to cut off contact for a while to really get over them before you can be friends.
