As a woman who’s been that down: IMHO you can just empathize, but admit you don’t have the capacity to deal with her needs. That you wish her well, but for your own mental health, you can’t be her rock. She may well know she has trust and relationship issues, and is telling you for the very reason that she wants you to walk away now if you can’t cope, rather than break her heart later.

Of course it’s also possible she’s has a personality disorder, rather than “just” depression, anxiety and trauma. So don’t let yourself be guilted back.

In any case, for both your sakes, and I hope this does not need saying: No sex.

Edit: Based on your responses you’re barely acquaintances. No action necessary, just let it drop.

A little or a lot more every year. Though humanity is pretty resourceful and nature has tardigrades, “never say never” to some post-apocalyptic 10k populations of one or the other surviving somewhere.

Fair enough, it does suck. I for one remain unconvinced by your sources, but respect greatly both that you provided them, and your opinion as equivalent to any “based on my non-objective experience…” just like my own. Thank you.

You clearly stated you didn’t want to have someone comb through you papers and argue, and their value as evidence is obvious to anyone who bothers to take a look, so the reaction of “nothing will come out of continuing this conversation” is quite understandable. I returned to say thank you for posting sources, but since you seem to take this as some kind of “stunned them to silence”…

The first two sources apparently refer to the same study; Okami 1995 is mostly literature review, methods, and intermediary results, while Okami 1998 is the final results.

Okami 1995: “Consistent with the cross-sectional retrospective literature (and with our expectations), no harmful main effects of these experiences were found at age 17-18. […] Taken as a whole then, effects are few, but generally beneficial in nature.”

Okami 1998: “No harmful “main effect” correlates of the predictor variables were found.”

So I fail to see how they’d support your point.

The last one, the Yahoo article, is not a study nor does it refer to any.

Okami 1998 also had a link to Lewis 1988, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/3421828/: “The results suggest that childhood experiences with exposure to nudity and sleeping in the parental bed are not adversely related to adult sexual functioning and adjustment. In fact, there is modest support that these childhood experiences are positively related to indices of adjustment.”

Recognition of pre-existing bias: I’m Finnish, and this felt like an attack on family saunas.

There are 202 proven uses for a dead cat, plus the ones when it’s still alive.

If it’s so well trodden then share a review or meta-analysis, nobody (or at least not me, doubt anyone else either) will bother to dig out the referenced studies one by one.

Link to those studies, please.

There’s a huge difference to just seeing a naked body doing its thing, like sauna, or swim, or relax in the sun, or sleeping, or ill; and the same body as an erotic object

Depends on what kind of relationship you have, which I think in turn tends to depend on the age and the sex of the children, among other things.

A 14-year-old boy, yeah, rather gross, especially if he is uncomfortable or sucks at expressing their affection any other way on other days.

Me, a 40+ year old woman who has a warm relationship with my mom, now with an additional layer of “two old ladies”, and a history of dirty jokes: Nah, I hope she got a chuckle out of the pic (I visited a week early, didn’t think of making something like this).

Ditto. My partner and I are well into our 40s, mortgage paid off, etc. Childfree. Living in a one-story attached house in a sort of suburbs, 20 minutes to city center by bike or bus. So, not a city apartment, and could have a decent car if we wanted to.

I never even bothered with getting a license, do not want to be responsible for a tonne+ murder machine.

We rent a car twice a year to visit relatives in the countryside, often one or two times more if there’s a family event or other need. I take a taxi sometimes to go to the vet. Otherwise it’s cycling (very bicycle-friendly city) or public transportation (also well arranged), and train & public transportation for other national travel. Transporting furniture is sometimes a hassle, but how often does one need to do that? Way more carefree and cheaper than owning a car.

That cat is loving it. Bunny well trained.

If the cause for muted celebration persists, for next year I’d suggest reviving International Workers’ Day and/or Beltane, possibly with Cinco de Mayo influences. Nothing like solidarity marches, or bonfires, pagan magic and feasting.

Yes, but not like that, not with my mortality, I’m quite ok with that. My constant existential crisis is that I am psychologically unable to live “now” with the irreverence it deserves.

In other words, I’m worried about doing absurdism wrong, which is absolutely ridiculous.

Sweet sweet yum yum.

I did this too! Started out as a “test” or temper tantrum, but afterwards it felt so safe he didn’t start talking, that it really was a space where I was in control.

Stupid clever therapist.

Aren’t the used LCD ones available really cheap these days? Probably best bang for your buck.

In the context of start-ups. Where workers presumably are also rewarded with stock options or similar. Takes a certain mentality and a definition of “winning” that I don’t share, which is why I don’t and wouldn’t work at a start-up. And besides, the message is chiefly directed at founders. I don’t find it -that- controversial.

Ehhh.

As much as the traditition of yearly votes on some version of Chat Control sucks, it’s just two mentions (The Register missed the reference to COM (2022) 209 under “Fighting serious crimes/child sexual abuse”, because of course it’d be there) in a document with way juicier tidbits. Like

• actual enforcement of the DSA (finally some consequences for social media giants gleefully profiting from manipulation, or an affront to freedom of speech, depending on your opinion)
• overhauling Europol’s mandate to make it “a truly operational police agency”, whereas the current mandate doesn’t cover such things as “sabotage, hybrid threats or information manipulation” (cool or creepy)
• “strengthening border security”, “countering weaponised migration”, “security considerations in EU visa policy”, and “revision of the Visa Suspension Mechanism” are all probably necessary steps, but taken together paint a picture of something that shouldn’t be allowed to go too far

The DSA enforcement is something strongly opposed by social media giants, so I’d expect more denigration of the document as a whole in the future.

Hate is such a strong word. Some bad, some good.

Bad:

• Copyright infringement and other unethical practices in acquiring training data
• Unimaginative AI art flooding the graphics market and the Internet
• Taking work from actual artists that might generate something new
• So much energy used on pointless, quickly forgotten “single-use art” in the middle of a climate crisis

Good:

• Okay starting point for logos for eg. small associations or clubs, preferably treated as version 0.1 and later worked on, but still an affordable option, and more personalised than clipart
• Creative visual outlet for people with no interest in developing their graphical skills, but who have an urge to get a small number of specific images out of their system
• Probably a good media for some commentary on the relationship between real a unreal, familiar and alien cognition, and such, but that itself is such a cliche
• Simply a fun toy

As someone with shit income but a nice savings buffer, holy shit it makes things so easy, compared. “Cool dress, I’ll get that for next summer - cool coat, I’ll get that for next winter”, no problem. Just got my cat’s meds for the next 4 months at a sale, and the next sale should be in that time. Also could get her thyroid radiotherapy, that’s already paid for itself (compared to permanent expensive meds, of course not compared to no treatment). Appliance starting to make a noise or performance dropping, time to add that to my second hand watch list and keep an eye on sales of quality brands, rather than being forced to risk it failing and then getting something in a hurry, possibly on some payment scheme with a high interest rate. Pantry items on sale and/or in bulk. And of course the kind of main shoes that have held up for 5+ years, just could use a resoling soon.

I can’t even imagine the constant stress living without it would be. Ow. :/

surely you can show me a shittone of examples of such a massive campaign of kidnappings happening to people forbidden from leaving the country […] that happened in […]let’s say last two centuries?

I’ll just give you a partial list of European countries that 1) had wartime conscription, and 2) executed deserters, in WW1 or 2, which would indicate an equally/more drastic “kill or be killed” choice, and is way easier to find. Or do you know better how conscription worked in the WWs off the top of your head?

• Britain and the Commonwealth
• France
• Germany
• Italy
• Soviet Union (estimated around 150 000 executed in WW2, including returned POWs executed for “desertion”)