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  • What you’re saying seems obvious but I don’t think it’s as simple as that. However, @stepan@lemmy.cafe said “somehow manage to ignore it”. I don’t think anyone ignores trauma in the way this implies. Unaddressed trauma is a ticking time bomb, period.

    Trauma comes in all shapes and sizes. When you get into the weeds, the word actually becomes useless on its own. What becomes important is the type, source, and severity of the trauma. When comparing one group to another, circumstances play just as large of a role. For example:

    Neurodivergents are much less likely to have romantic relationships, and the odds are even worse of them having children. Thus, they experience trauma related to rejection, loneliness, shame and unfulfilled evolutionary drives (among other things) at a much higher rate than neurotypicals. However, they experience the trauma of miscarriage, abortion, loss of a child, divorce, death of a spouse, and spousal abuse at a much lower rate than neurotypicals.

    Are there a whole slew of things unique to neurodivergents that are compounded by societal or cultural incompatibilities (bullying, social rejection, invalidation, etc.) that neurotypicals will likely never understand? Absolutely. Do neurodivergents have much higher rates of suicide in adulthood than neurotypicals? Yes. Do these have anything to do with whether or not neurotypicals are seemingly better at getting-by because they ignore their trauma? No. They’re better at getting-by because the world is built for them. But that doesn’t mean they don’t live in a prison of their own.



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    17 days ago

    No offense but this is a very self-centered and immature viewpoint. Trauma is a fact of human existence. Just because the world is designed for neurotypicals doesn’t mean the world isn’t still traumatic for them. Case in point: trauma for physical assault, sexual abuse, loss of a loved one, severe injury, cancer, losing a job (and the avalanche that can start).

    None of us know what goes on behind closed doors.







  • The scale of destruction in Gaza is incomprehensible to me. Like, I see the picture, I know it’s awful, I feel for those affected, but there’s some kind of disconnect.

    It’s the same feeling when I look at images of Nagasaki and Hiroshima. Just all emotion is preempted by a numbness, an inability to process. It’s difficult for me to explain, actually. It’s a picture of gray rubble that used to be people and their homes and workplaces and gathering places, but the picture is totally depersonalized. It’s lifeless, both literally and figuratively. No bodies, no blood, no color at all. Look at it from a distance it might look like TV static.

    I don’t know. It’s weird.


  • There was a burger place in my town that was owned and operated by a bunch of women who called themselves a lesbian collective. It was a great hang and the burgers were very, very good.

    They basically operated on this sentiment. If you were a dick, you were out. If you thought they were being dicks, you either adjusted your attitude or went hungry. Dead simple, and it worked. They were thriving.

    And I don’t mean to make it sound like Patrick Swayze was working the door. It was the exact opposite. Good people running a good establishment serving good food who didn’t take shit off assholes. It’s surprising how much better a place feels for the customers when the employees get to have their dignity.

    Unfortunately, they closed during COVID like most of the mom & pops around here. I miss it so much.






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    2010s, OMG they were everywhere. It was just a thing. Veganism became super trendy and people hopped on the bandwagon. Now that it’s not cool anymore, most of them have hopped onto another bandwagon or have aged out of chasing trends altogether. But they’re always out there. Right now, I hear a lot about K-Pop, Formula 1, and… third places. That last one catches me off guard because I have a related degree and when I was in school the concept was relatively obscure, so it catches me off guard, but in a good way (I work in a museum which charges for entry).

    Anyway, eventually enough pretentious attention-seekers hop on the bandwagon and annoy enough people that they become the subject of ridicule. They move to the next thing, and the OGs get to be the butt of the joke for a generation. It blows.