• FoundTheVegan@kbin.social
      1·
      11 months ago

      never felt like I needed to post my life for the whole world to see

      As he posts a story from his life 🙄

      Dude is so oblivious and arrogant. He barely knows her and is already judging, thankfully smart girl saw the signs and dodged a bullet. It’s rare for greentext to have a happy ending.

      • InfiniteStruggle@sh.itjust.works
        3·
        11 months ago

        damn bro, no need to get up in arms about it. Everybody judges everybody all the time, just a reality of life. She’s judging him, he’s judging her, I’m judging you right now, you’re going to be judging me when you read this, and on it goes.

    • lunarul@lemmy.world
      1·
      11 months ago

      You don’t need to also fake post what others post. Just have an account, you don’t need to ever post on it and if you do post you can keep it visible to friends only. I haven’t posted anything on Facebook for years, but that account is the only way some friends and relatives can reach me (I moved abroad, so phone is not an option).

        • MareOfNights@discuss.tchncs.de
          1·
          11 months ago

          You might be right, but I’d still rather kill myself than play these weird games for a relationship. So far I’ve been doing ok without WhatsApp in the EU. If they can only talk to me via WA I’m just not talking to them. But then again, my circles are pretty “techy” so most people are OK with it.

      • InfiniteStruggle@sh.itjust.works
        1·
        11 months ago

        I AM A NORMAL PERSON AND CAN BE TRUSTED WITH GUNS! I AM A NORMAL PERSON AND CAN BE TRUSTED WITH GUNS! I AM A NORMAL PERSON AND CAN BE TRUSTED WITH GUNS!

        lol

    • nycki@lemmy.worldEnglish
      0·
      11 months ago

      This, for real. I’m autistic but I’ve learned to mask it by showing normies what they expect to see and it makes things so much easier. Remember, reception matters more than intention.

  • Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works
    31·
    11 months ago

    NGL if you have a flip phone now, you’re either a contract killer, a drug dealer and or a stage 5 weirdo.

  • Stern@lemmy.world
    1·
    11 months ago

    Folks wanna know what they’re getting into. Your social media feeds are an easy indicator. Your twitter all retweets of Andrew Tate? Facebook filled with pics of you dressed up like a leather dog? Truth social? Concerning for many women.

  • Letstakealook@lemm.ee
    1·
    11 months ago

    I know this is likely fake, but I have gotten that reaction from people. Folks really find it strange when you don’t have social media. The times it really sucks is when they think you’re lying and just don’t want to add them.

    • ChexMax@lemmy.world
      0·
      11 months ago

      It’s about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, that’s outside of what’s normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I don’t want to be alone with someone I don’t really know who is unpredictable. I’m just trying not to get murdered.

  • 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️@yiffit.netEnglish
    0·
    11 months ago

    I am terminally online and even I don’t want to engage with someone I know IRL through social media. We don’t need to be on discord or Instagram or Reddit to talk 1 on 1. We can just fucking text. Like on the phone. No, I don’t want to download Kik or whatsapp or any other random, sketchy app. We can text through the phone.

    • Firipu@startrek.website
      0·
      11 months ago

      Fuck texting like a Neanderthal. Use a modern, and secure app to communicate. WhatsApp as a bottom of the barrel thing (99% of society outside of the US is on it, so it’s the de facto standard) , signal or better if you can.

      • Pohl@lemmy.world
        0·
        11 months ago

        Nothing makes me smirk like the rest of the world bragging to Americans that they use Facebook to text. Yeah guys, you nailed it. Big win. We’re over here using standard protocols like rubes. I’m sure you get all kinds of security from that free app from Mr Zuckerberg. lol

        • Kilgore Trout@feddit.it
          1·
          11 months ago

          I’m all for discrediting Facebook services for better alternatives, but Whatsapp employs End to End encryption by default, while SMS is readable from your ISP and anyone intercepting your conversation.

          • Pohl@lemmy.world
            0·
            11 months ago

            Facebook makes money selling data for advertising. They don’t host and maintain what’s app for the good of mankind. every single thing you send on the app is being harvested for data and you know it. It is decrypted at each end and hovered up for sale to the highest bidder.

            • Kilgore Trout@feddit.it
              1·
              11 months ago

              Facebook makes money mainly from advertising, yes, which can be done also on Whatsapp and will be in the future.

              While they can still harvest some data from Whatsapp even if conversations are encrypted, my point was that they have no way to read the content of messages you send.

        • Honytawk@lemmy.zip
          1·
          11 months ago

          You guys use iMessage, a proprietary app from an other big tech company and use it to dismiss the other half of the population.

          You guys aren’t much better.

  • and@sh.itjust.works
    0·
    11 months ago

    anon should’ve pulled out his Lemma and asked for her username (not that you can follow anyone here afaik) he would’ve smashed that instant

    • lseif@sopuli.xyz
      1·
      11 months ago

      erm, a username alone is not very helpful, so unless he asked for her home instance as well, i-