Think it very thoroughly if you want kids
As someone nearing his 40s, I really do want to have kids, though I’m really afraid my sedentary body won’t keep up
It’s fairly hard to create one-size-fits-all advice since everyone will be in different parts of their lives in different circumstances.
Less time on the internet and definitely away from the big social media sites does one good. Avoiding the 24/7 news cycle does as well. Instead, read a book for something you want to learn or read fiction for some period of time a day on most days.
Exfoliate, moisturizer, sunblock
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When things are great, even small things like a cup of coffee with a friend or a quiet morning, take a minute to say to yourself, “this is really great.” Say it out loud. Years later you will realize those moments are as good as it gets, and if you don’t mark them they just disappear. Bad moments stick around in your head regardless, but the good ones need to be memorialized.
if you don’t mark them
This is why, whenever I’m truly happy, I whip it out and pee in the nearest vaguely vertically-oriented object.
Go to the dentist. Get a little exercise. Find a way to reduce calories over the next 20 years, spend as little as possible. Borrow a little money for your car. Stay away from credit cards until you make enough to pay the cards in full every month. Keep track of every skill you learn on the job, using that information to transition into higher-paying jobs. Get a savings account. Spend as little as possible without skimping on food quality. Save 1 months salary and keep that in checking. At the end of each month, transfer everything above the target funds into savings. Save 3 months salary for an emergency fund. Once this financial foundation is established, divide additional funds into two buckets: one gets invested each month, the other is for major purchases and travel.
I ain’t trying to scare you, but if you live a statistically average life you’re about to hit a downward trend in your mood which will last a couple of decades. By the time you’re thirty you’ll likely have a boss, a spouse and kids, all of whose needs will have to come before yours. Things start to improve again at age 47 when the kids have moved out and you’re at the top of your career.
Maintain your friendships. It’s so easy to make them a low priority, but having good friends and being a good friend to them is the way to make it through.
mid 30s guy also learning from most of these comments
Whatever you’re thinking, don’t.
Take care of your health in general, but take extra special care of your core. Your back will thank you in 20 years.
Especially if you have an office job. Get a really good and really expensive office chair with a flexible back and adjustable arm rests so you’re not sitting in the same position every time.
And also, take a walk every day. I do that every time on my break and haven’t had back problems in years.
Back and teeth are haunting me already at 31. Take care of them, it’s crucial for your quality of life!
37, close enough. Invest invest invest. Start a 401K with Acorns or something, I don’t care. Just start putting money away for your retirement yesterday.
Save 5% now so you don’t have to save 50% later.
If you want kids, don’t put it off for too long. I waited till my late 30s because I was never ready. Here’s the thing you will never feel completely ready. As long as your life is basically stable (job, housing, and no serious issues) you will be okay.
Kids are hard but super rewarding. If you have them young then you’ll get to see them as adults in your 40s. By the time my kids are adults I’ll be pushing 60 and hoping that I live long enough to meet a grandchild.
People have successfully (shades of grey here I know) been having kids for a long time. You’ll never feel “ready” but rest assured you’ll figure it out.
appreciate what you have now. take your time, you have tmie right now, don’t worry about finding your dream situation in live be it work, love, living, whatever just experience life. you’re young, you hopefully have some money, so experience it if you can. If you’re going to drink, do it now cause when you hit my age hangovers last 2 days and after one or two beers you’re pissing up a storm.
Don’t complain about a week taking forever and you hope the weekend comes soon because once you hit your 40s all that “time” snowballs together and you’ll be begging the days to go by slower. Things start speeding up and people start leaving you and you have no choice but to go along for the ride and hope for the best. You’re still in your 20s, cherish the time you have. hold onto it. apprecaite it. Take as many photos as you can, take as many videos as you can and save them. Friends and lovers will come and go but those memories from your 20s will last forever. make it easy to remember them.
I’m 39, but this is mine: do you just feel kinda “blah” all the time, don’t enjoy anything including things you used to enjoy, and can’t motivate yourself to do anything? That might be depression, and it might also be undiagnosed ADHD. The sooner you learn about that and get help with it, the better you’ll feel and the more effective you’ll be (and the less you’ll let down the people you love).
This is me at 42
Have fun, chase your dreams, make sure you always have “fuck you” money for when shit hits the fan, and be kind.
Oh and the sunscreen thing!
