Just to point out, colloquially you are wrong, and there is a colloquial use of the term pedophile. We are not discussing this in an academic setting and it also doesn’t change the content of this discussion to redefine terms to academic ones, so no need to change it. Everyone understands what’s being referenced here because it was specified as being a 14 year old in the OP.

What exactly is your purpose in making this distinction between these terms?