• Todd Bonzalez@lemm.ee
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    2 months ago

    I think the real issues here are:

    1. Making obesity your top concern just shows that the most important thing to you is a woman’s looks. That’s a red flag that other things aren’t as important.
    2. Making single moms a dealbreaker is somewhat derogatory. If you don’t want kids, make that your requirement, but a lot of men out there are really saying “I don’t want to raise another man’s kid”, which is another red flag of toxic masculinity.
    3. The “not on dating apps” requirement does seem to stem from the paranoia that women on dating apps are sluts (another toxic red flag), but that’s some self-hate right there. Pretty much every single woman is using dating apps because that’s how people date these days. If Tinder is a dealbreaker, you’re gonna die alone.

    So basically, if you’re a woman, and you hear a guy list these requirements, what you really hear is:

    1. Hot girls only, my sexual satisfaction is of the highest priority.
    2. I need to pretend you are a virgin, so I want to see no evidence that you existed as a sexual person before dating me, otherwise my ego will collapse.
    3. I hate women and think they’re sluts, so you better not have any qualities that I arbitrarily associate with promiscuity. See also: #2 about how I need to feel like I’m fucking a virgin. Also #1 where she better be hot.

    Honestly, I would judge any woman that dated a man this trashy.