So I’m not 100% sure this is the right sub for this but I couldn’t really find another sort of mod abuse sub that had actual users. I recognize that I am most certainly an asshole in this situation, but I got banned [email protected] for a misogynistic comment I left on a completely different sub.

imogen_underscore in that same thread made multiple death threats against me and has only received a 7 day ban. So I want to be clear here that in their eyes a misogynistic comment left on an entirely different sub is WORSE than death threats left in your own sub?

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          Chill out, it can also be used when gender is irrelevant.

          Singular they has become the pronoun of choice to replace he and she in cases where the gender of the antecedent – the word the pronoun refers to – is unknown, irrelevant, or nonbinary, or where gender needs to be concealed. It’s the word we use for sentences like Everyone loves his mother.

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            Transphobic people regularly use they/them for binary trans people to avoid using their actual pronouns. If you know someone’s pronouns be respectful and use them.

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              Are you of the opinion that the pronouns are relevant to the length of their (plural their mind you, OP and imogen_underscore) bans or that the discussion here will somehow change depending on their gender?

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              This BS is one of the reasons why the left are getting their asses handed to them like fucking everywhere. ‘They’ as a neutral pronoun is used as a fallback when nobody cares to point out the precise gender. You can’t win for losing. Refer to someone’s gender during normal conversation? Sexist. Speaking in a way that doesn’t call out someone’s gender because it is unimportant for the issues being discussed? Believe it or not: sexist? Or what not sexist enough? What is even the problem?

              You’ve completely derailed the conversation and soured everyone to your cause(s). GG.