Daily life is what daily life is all about.
I do think I’d potentially be happier with a partner who I could speak philosophy and politics with, but if we couldn’t also function simply navigating running a household and raising our family, then we really couldn’t be anything more than friends with benefits long term. Not that that would be a bad thing. It just depends on how you want to live your life, and whether you value a stable partnership over firey romance.
Some people are lucky enough to have a partner that fulfills the entirety of their intellectual, intimate, familial and financial needs, but such people are few and far between I’m sure!
Shit got real in the shit post sub.
Between neurological relationship building, and predetermination, there’s much to talk about!
Also, how’s the weather in your area today? It’s sunny with quite a wind here; had a spot of rain earlier.
It’s been pristine here! Just perfect weather. Sunny and about 75.
I was, as a teenager, a person who hated small talk. Looking back, the big things I wanted to talk about were and are important to me, but I realize that I like listening to people’s thinking and let them vibe where they feel heard and happy!
This is a surprisingly powerful topic for a lot of people *
*those people particularly being the ends of the spectrum between “people who discovered how easy it is to get people to like you” and “angry introverts who don’t want to change.”
I REFRAIN FROM THE PRACTICE OF UTILIZING MINISCULE SPEECH. EACH AND EVERY INSTANCE OF MY EXPRESSION IS VAST AND VERBOSE AND MAXIMAL.
I think it half-exists. I speak from a deep inspection of will performed while meditating.
There is a spark of energy that arises from my mysterious depths, that preceeds choice. I dunno where it comes from. Like I said, mysterious depths.
The spark enters this world and takes its form from it. Becomes a choice. Taking form from formlessness like breath blown into a flute. Or a player’s will injected into a videogame.
As someone who’s not been in an real relationship this is my fear as well, even if I find someone how will I keep them engaged enough for a lifetime. I rarely even text the women I get digits from, I’m just very comfortable being alone and now it’s getting problematic
But if you feel comfortable, why is it problematic?
There’s more to life than just being comfortable, most things that are worthwhile require getting out of your comfort zone, and I think I’ve realized as I’ve grown older is that a relationship is worthwhile
That’s beautifully written and very to the point. I wish you well in your search for a partner who takes you as you are and, equally important, who you like as they are.
Honestly yes that’s kind of what I do.
I don’t think it matters.
I honestly don’t think it’s a meaningful question.
I think everyone needs to recalibrate what ‘small talk’ is.
Some people are acting so opposed to small talk, as if it requires writing an essay on why you love a list of pop culture influencers and reality stars.
Asking someone you love “How was your day?” is a meaningful question. Small talk is bullshit time wasting between randos or acquaintances.
“Lovely weather today, isn’t it?”
“Yeah, makes me feel like picnics,”
is expressing feelings to each other, affirming a shared worldview in which sunny weather is good, and affirming the value of each others’ feelings and potential plans.
Just because the real meaning is hidden, doesn’t negate the value.
That’s fair. Sometimes I can be a bit grumpy with randos.
I mean yeah kind of. I like having these kinds of conversations far more than boilerplate smalltalk.
Do you… Like stuff?
Not really. I’m pretty obnoxious, but I own it.
Why does the image look like AI generated? How the letters are so fucked up?
Shit, you got my interest peaked, I want to know now
piqued*
Or, their interest has peaked, and for a brief moment they want to know, but then their interest will decline.
Might have been corrupted through a bunch of screenshots and then restored by ai
Took a picture of their monitor with a phone camera that uses AI image enhancement
ITT we ask the autistic to self identify
It’s not small talk, because i actually care how my wife’s day was.
How do you get married to someone if you never started with small talk?
The free will question is much closer to the conversations I was having with my wife before we got married. We were talking for hours every day, I can’t imagine spending hours on small talk.
Well that wasn’t really the question. But actually I met her when we were both pretty young so I don’t recall it being much of an issue. We probably talked about kid stuff.
What’s your favorite color? Do you like hot wheels? Perhaps our definition of small talk differs from others. To me it’s a starting point to get into deeper conversations.
Because that way “I see you as a friend!” lies. At least that’s why I’m single.
I guess I see small talk as gateway questions to deeper conversations. I met me wife by asking about the weather.
“Hi there! Beautiful weather we’re having, isn’t it?”
“Yes, perfect for marrying…”
through meeting with intent so your talks are not small.
You seem lovely on dates
Fill the void with intercourse.
Try getting married to a dragon, they don’t care about small talk
I can’t, morally, upvote you but I appreciate your self-consistency.
What did drag do?
Idk. Everyone’s done something but I don’t know them like that.
I was adopting a joke stance against their dragon fuckinf.
In the case of my grandfather he just went all in on his batshit insane stories, his first one was apparently how he electrocuted his balls. My grandmother avoided him initially, but after she realized he was the charming type of insane she warmed up to him. The fuck were people doing in the 70s?
Electrocuting their balls, apparently.
Well that and using chemicals that cause cancer if you don’t use a mask with a filter. He came to regret that one. My grandfather was a walking OSHA violation.
My speech is deep. My beard is neck.
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