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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • It’s not even people being offended that creates the rules a lot of the time. If you don’t have strict and clear cut rules, it’s going to eat up a ton of mod time trying to keep out trolls and people asking the same things repeatedly in bad faith. I liked the split that was on Reddit between an asktransgender group and the groups meant for community.

    For me though, I’ve just never wanted to be in that particular kind of place as a trans person. It takes a lot of energy to constantly answer the unintentionally offensive and invasive questions from all the people in your family, job, and just general day to day life. It’s hard to find people who consistently can and want to give time to helping slowly warm people up to the same basic facts that they could find on their own.




  • I recently had to build out my business casual wardrobe as well. Madewell has taken so much of my money for both regular clothes and business ones. Decent deals on sale and generally a great quality. I’m also tall, and they tend to offer a tall version of everything which is so lovely.

    Zara on sale had some decent deals of meh quality stuff, and I did some last bit of filling out with h&m stuff since the clothes budget was blown. H&m has some stuff that will look good for a bit, but long-term quality isn’t great.