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Cake day: June 19th, 2023

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  • I’m a marketer by profession, but I just moved to a new country to be with my husband and am still job hunting.

    Growing up, my dad was a programmer. I was a kid in the 2000s, and I wasn’t allowed to spend money online because everywhere just looked sketchy as heck then (and we also didn’t have the disposable income). Over the years I’ve watched my dad build up his own movie downloading and streaming solution, home automation, etc, but never had the opportunity to really try my hand at this stuff till I moved out and suddenly had free unemployment time and a very supportive husband.

    I’m still new to it all, but I’ve managed to get docker working, Komodo to manage containers, firefly III for finances, Pelican to run game servers (that none of my friends have really played with me on 😅) and created a basic homepage to link to everything.

    I’m considering doing Jellyfin, but I’m not a huge movie/shows consumer, so haven’t really started on that. It was nice being able to ask my dad for help when I was figuring all the basics out though. We never had that much in common to talk about, and this made me feel a bit closer to him, even if I live across the globe now.


  • I’m on desvenlafaxine, an antidepressant. It helps with the ADHD “walk through a doorway and wtf was I wanting to do again” problems I have. I’m also a generally functional person with ADHD. Graduated with a degree and all but just rather spacey and forgetful.

    Also turns out I’ve been massively depressed for years so that also cleared up. I haven’t taken Vyvanse, but back when I was taking just Ritalin I’d still get intense negative moods and was generally snappier. If taken as needed now it’s not so bad.

    Overall: 10/10, husband recommends.

    (He pledged that he’ll fund my medications if I ever had trouble buying them since I’ve done a lot better since going on them. Happy wife, happy life and all)



  • “Just do it”

    Well, I’m trying, but my brain decided I should spend the next 3 hours doomscrolling while I mentally kick myself for not doing the thing already.

    I think with adulthood there’s been more things I can “just do”, but the smaller things usually get procrastinated to hell and back for no reason besides “my brain didn’t want to do it”.

    Same with potential, whatever greatness I was promised by everyone who said that hasn’t happened yet.


  • Take some of the questionnaires from more legitimate ADHD resource sites. Where I scored highly likely to be ADHD, my partner did not at all.

    That being said, you could also undergo psychiatric assessment with a psychiatrist, but it may be a little expensive. I would recommend it if you can, because medication and appropriate psychotherapy can greatly improve quality of life.


  • I think it’s definitely really early to say if they have proper romantic interest in you, given you’ve only known each other about a week? But from your post, it seems like you two have points in common and have a lot to chat about, which is often a good foundation for relationships, friendly and romantic.

    In terms of learning Linux, it’s probably ideal to have a bit more of an outline of what you want to start teaching her because it’s a huge jump into a new OS (not that I know much of myself). She may not know where to ask you to start and would appreciate more suggestions from you on where to begin, like telling her “Today, let me show you (practically) how to install (OS) on a system and navigate it” and going off that.

    I think the tl;dr would be: Have a Linux lesson plan, expect friendship first. Take it slow.

    Hope things go well.







  • Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoPiracy@lemm.eeAdobe uncracked me?
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    3 years ago

    Would you have the Adobe genuine service thing installed without your noticing? It was the Adobe pdf reader of all things that triggered the locking off my software, but deleting Adobe genuine service seemed to work.

    It’s a bit different to your 10d countdown but it doesn’t hurt to try.




  • Gosh, sorry to hear that. I’m also “functional”, but I’m that duck paddling madly underwater to get anywhere.

    I thought my psychiatrist was also going to say I’m normal because my parents insisted I was when I gave them the childhood ADHD assessment form.

    I read a few questions to my mother because she didn’t want to read it herself, and stopped at about 5 before giving it to my dad to fill out. The final question being: “Does your child have trouble completing schoolwork or household tasks?”

    Her answer: (on a scale of 1 to 5, 1 being normal and 5 being very bad ADHD) 1, you didn’t have trouble, you’re just lazy.

    All my life, hearing “you have potential, but you’re just lazy”, or “I didn’t see you dozing off playing games”. No, I’m not lazy, and yes, I have fallen asleep gaming, multiple times.

    I hope you’ll be able to find that diagnosis or at least proper support for your struggles. Just because we function, doesn’t mean we can’t function even better with help and medication.





  • I enjoy top down stealth games, and haven’t seen this game get discussed much, but it was pretty fun - Serial Cleaner (and sequel, Serial CleanerS)

    You play a guy who cleans up murder scenes for an unknown serial killer, all the while evading guards and other security measures. It’s a pretty fun experience, and I do recommend giving it a go if that’s your kind of thing.

    There’s also the Marvelous Miss Take, a game where you play a woman on a mission to perform a series of heists. Also a top down stealth game, you get to use some gadgets to distract guards while you sneak past and to your goal.

    Both are older indie games, but enjoyable for at least one playthrough.