Sorry, I don’t have any advice, just commiserating. When I played Elden Ring on Windows, this was a constant problem that seems to have no real fix. The game only really runs well on consoles. There were a bunch of “fixes” floating around, but nothing notably improved performance for me.
Yeah I’ve done this a few times. I used to work in construction, so jobs would often not be quite what they seemed from the job description, and sometimes the hiring people would lie. At one former job, I found out I was getting paid less than I was told in the interview, so I walked out. One job I worked for a day or two until we had to go up on a roof with bare joists and no one tied off. When I mentioned safety concerns they called me a pussy so I walked off. Nothing is worth falling off a roof into a bunch of construction debris.