This was me, except I went straight from Ubuntu to Debian. At some point I wondered why I was doing all this manual maintenance. I realized that Ubuntu relies on Debian and so I switched. Haven’t looked back.

Yes. Then those edits flow downstream to Infuse.

I’ve used all three and here is what I have most recently settled on: Jellyfin as a backend server with Infuse on the frontend. It has been rock solid for the last two years.