• JJROKCZ@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    I love reading about how Korea and Japan are both having this problem and in each it boils down to: people are struggling to survive under capitalist oppression and refuse to bring children into the life of oppression

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      When I read stories like this, I think about another story about a bear whose bile was extracted for industrial use. The extraction is extremely painful for the animal. They’re kept harnessed to the extraction machinery. This particular bear managed to escape its harness. And the first thing it did was to kill its own cub. So that it wouldn’t have to suffer anymore. This happened in China by the way.

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        They’re really going for “Better to have the country fail with men in power than give more importance to women and children.”

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        I’m laying here in bed until the last minute required for me to great ready to rush into work to attend meetings for 7 hours then come home and do actual work for another 5 to keep up with workload. Yes I’m as tired as you

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      and refuse to bring children into the life of oppression

      Close. It’s their inherent racism that is causing their nations to fail.

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        For South Korea this is unlikely to be the case. If you actually listen to the women, you’ll learn that starting a family means becoming second class citizens, dogged by oppressive institutions and terrible mother-in-laws (which is a cultural problem too). It’s common in many places. The men aren’t better off either, the insane competition is stressful, alienating, and prevents them from actually experiencing family. Yes, this is also common in many places.

        The problem is capitalism and conservatism, two sides of the same coin.

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    15 years in Korea, I saw before, and I see it now.

    When I first got there, Korea was still a bit like the past in North America. It was still completely viable to have a 1 income household, and in fact most working women would say, at the time, they couldn’t wait to get married and have a kid so that they could retire and take care of their kid full time. The husband made more than enough money to support them, and how many people actually really want to work right?

    Now, it’s a requirement that both work full time at very good paying jobs or you’re going to struggle significantly. The government thinks this is solely a money issue but it isn’t. It’s an everything issue.

    1. Housing - Housing prices shot up 3-4x in a span of 10 years. Wages did not. It’s still a money issue, but it’s a pretty extreme one. Korea has a house ‘ladder’ type system with their jeonse deposit. It’s not as common now that interest rates are gone, but in the past, if you put down a big enough deposit you lived without any month to month rent. The landlord would invest the money you paid as deposit for 2 years and give you back the whole thing, you could turn around and save your money over those 2 years to then have an even bigger deposit and either keep moving to bigger and better houses or eventually saving up enough to buy your own house. This is now broken, but they didn’t exactly switch to a more worldly system. Many houses still require a massive deposit (maybe not quite as high) but also a high monthly rent. Be prepared to put down $100-$200k and still spend $1,500-3,000 a month for a good place. This is very bad in a place where wages have stagnated. The government has done nothing to really alleviate this situation.

    2. Working hours - Working hours are still very long there, despite some shifts. Your standard work day is typically 9-6 or 7. And then you need to get home. Most people wouldn’t get home until close to 8 pm depending on what they do and how far away they live. The government has done nothing to address this. The most they’ve done is actually make a couple statutory holidays in lieu. In the past most holidays that fell on a weekend you just lost. Now about half of them you will actually get the Monday or Friday off.

    3. Vacation time - most companies do not give extensive vacation time as you see in western countries. You might get a couple of days here and there, but for the most part a lot of companies all take some set time off during the summer and good luck booking any kind of reasonably priced recreation with you and 20 million of your closest friends all within the same few week period. The government has done nothing of note to address this.

    4. Recreation and leisure - Spend a little time on google checking out things like water parks, beaches, fireworks, parks, science museums for kids, the cherry blossoms in the spring. What’s the first thing you’ll notice? The fact that you’d have to put western fire marshals on suicide watch over the amount of people at each of these events. The itaewon crush disaster could probably happen at several different activities each year in many different places. I went to Ikea once and it was a mess. Shoulder to shoulder through the entire store. An hour long lineup to get into the restaurant. It is very difficult to enjoy your life outside of the house there because everyone else in the country is trying to do that at the same time in the same limited venues. The government has done nothing to address this.

    5. day to day cost of living - in the mid 2000s this was dirt cheap compared to western countries. This was the trade off. You went there, made less money, but the cost of living was so cheap you could still save quite a bit. Now it’s on par with western countries but wages haven’t kept up. Quality of life has taken a nosedive. Fewer leisure activities, fewer enjoyable things like ordering out, less money to spend on what little hobby and free time you have. The government has done nothing of note that has alleviated any of this.

    The government simply refuses to address the core issues that make people unhappy in their day to day life. Even if you immediately tripled everyone’s salary, it wouldn’t change the fact that they spend too long at work and in what free time they have it’s impossible to go out and enjoy themselves.

    Meanwhile soju is $1-2/bottle and you can still get $20-30 day rates in motels so getting day hammered and having an affair is still the most affordable fun you can have.

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      I think this is spot on. Raising a family takes time, and if there are not enough like human hours available in a “standard” schedule/lifestyle for two average people, they just aren’t going to be able to raise a family. I think it’s as simple as that.

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    7 months ago

    Falling birth rates are bad news for economies and billionaires, but good news for the planet.

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    7 months ago

    Am I the only one who thinks it’s stupid to use taxpayer money just to make rich people richer?

    This isn’t solving the problem, it’s making it worse.

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      Every government in the world does this, sadly. It’s almost as if rich people look after themselves when they take positions in government.

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    If I offer you $5 off every sports car you buy, then I say “American’s are not interested in the $15 Billion dollar vehicle incentives”… its disingenuous.

    The total cost of buying a car needs to be part of the discussion, not just the “incentive”.

    The same goes for family planning.

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    7 months ago

    Surprised to see none of the comments mentioning the 4B movement

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      went to read up on it and not suprised. Cousins friend of a friend went to Korea for vacation once and was raped on her trip there. Grew androphobia because of the incident.

      if youre female in South Korea, please try avoiding going to clubs and parties, especially if you dont have a person to watch over you.

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        it’s a feminist movement, in backlash to misogyny and pro-natalism in South Korea (it’s becoming more widespread, though). The 4Bs are the “four no’s”:

        • no dating men
        • no sex with men
        • no marriage with men
        • no childbearing

        It gets a lot of pushback and is called selfish etc. but women are very angry & upset that the government only sees them for their reproductive use, and it’s reasonable to not want to date someone who doesn’t view you as human.

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        I’m trying to comprehend what I just saw.

        Is this a pro antinatalist video? The guy does the spiel about how having kids is bad for humanity, and then offers to cut his throat. Is the goal here to demonstrate that antinatalists hate children, or to offer the argument that you shouldn’t have children?

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          Utopia (British version), not the U.S. version, is a really great show that is very collapse of civilization aware. It even weaves it into the story. The bad guys in the show have a logical reason for their actions. It raises the question, “do the means justify the end?”

          It also has great visuals and soundtrack.