I stopped caring. Most people just love to complain. They’re not even thinking about you as much as themselves. Just imagine they’re people from Lemmy. Random people saying dumb things in an attempt to make themselves feel superior because they are lacking something in life.

Do your best, try not to fuck with people, and know that no one exists but you.

There’s a point I reached where I mostly just stopped caring. I also don’t like a lot of people, so I suppose the feeling is at least sometimes mutual.

More to your actual point, learning to deal with criticism is a skill and it can be very tough sometimes for everyone. I normally try to think of how that comment is wrong and, if it’s not, how I can learn and grow from whatever criticism is. Don’t sweat honest mistakes; just try to put systems in place to avoid them (I’m a fan of checklists for some things). For personal attacks or unrelated, just ignore them.

i like me.

everyone else is optional

Maybe it’s not about whether they like you or not, but they fairly evaluated your work? No one is perfect, but it’s helpful to take constructive criticism? When you teach and you’ve thoroughly explained the subject matter in a relatable way, but students miss a few questions, due to typos, being tired, etc, do you give a perfect score when they’ve missed an answer or two on homework or tests? If you do, how are they to know where they need to reinforce understanding, or explain an answer better? While technical difficulties can’t be helped, would that excuse a student’s missed homework or answers to questions? How can you be sure they grasp the material? We work with each other and maybe give broad leeway, but no one is perfect, and we all have areas we can improve. Perhaps they like you and want your continued success, as well as students who come behind them?

work on your self-confidence and self esteem. go check a psychologist.

Time helps. I am not a teacher, but I coach.

I feel like I wanted to be loved by my athletes or completely ignored by them when I started coaching. I didn’t want anyone to dislike or doubt my abilities in any way. I went above and beyond to plan practices and be as legitimate as possible as a young coach close (enough) in age to the athletes. I needed firmly establish that I was an authority in the field and worth taking advice from.

I’ll be honest, some of my interactions with athletes during covid broke me. We went remote when facilities and the world shut down. Which meant trying to run fitness classes over zoom for whoever still wanted them. When we returned to in person practice, the athletes just came back cynical and critical (the entire world was just proven to be a shit show, so I understand where they are coming from). I felt like I had to justify my strategy every few weeks, of they did not see immediate results, they just questioned the value in coming to practice.

It took time to build up a reputation with my athletes again. All i could do was continue to do the best job possible and trust my knowledge. We just celebrated having our first Olympian alumni, so things are going well! But not everyone has that same successful result, and want to blame someone for that. Some people will always think they are the smartest person in the room, and you can’t change their way of thinking.

For those 5% of negative reviews, the best case scenario is that you did the best possible job you could. And in a few years, they self reflect and think about how critical they were of you when it really wasn’t anything. Worst case scenario, they tell the story of their instructor, who was in some way incompetent, and everyone just smiles, nods, and gets on with their lives. The otherwise overwhelmingly positive reviews show us that you are preparing your students for whatever the next step is. Some students might not see the value of your work immediately, or 2 years down the road, or ever. Just because they can not see the value in your work does not mean the value was not their.

Are you fucking serious? Did you never get bullied in school as a kid or something? Are you that privileged? What the fuck.

I’m a 36 year old professor. My only negative evaluation this past semester was that I didn’t give homework. Though, most of them hated my guts from using grades to tell them their work was mostly average. <Insert Boomer comment about participation trophies>

The students realized they needed to change to improve their grades. And subsequently, they grew the way I expected, which was far more than they thought they would. They recognized I was teaching them more than the material: I was teaching them the meta. That was valuable enough to them to forgive me for being such a dick about the numbers that define their self worth.

So, want the students to give you those glowing 10/10 evaluations? Piss them off and make them glad that you did. Give them something of value that no one has. But, based off of how much you seem to care about the difference between a 95% and 100%, I think, much like my students, you are chasing your participation trophy. Think on it.

It may sound a little silly but when I get good feedback on something, I pop it in my journal under a specific tag so I can revisit it from time to time.

It’s unfortunate that people are unfair to you, possibly they are younger or otherwise have incorrect expectations about your fallibility as a human.

I used to respond to things like that but these days I let the positive comments speak for themselves. Just remember to ask for feedback- a lot of people otherwise won’t do it unless they’ve got something negative to say.

I’m a performer and a teacher. I know for a fact not everyone likes me, or likes everything I do (which involves a lot of freaky shit). I don’t do what I do for them. I do it for the people who do enjoy it, and try to make it a point to come out to my classes or shows. I very much appreciate those people.

Honestly? I think you just have to age out of it. Like you said, it’s just a fact that not everyone will, but if you care about being liked in the first place, chances are that only time giving you opportunity to not be liked, and absorb the lesson that it doesn’t hurt anything, will move you past that desire.

Me? I had jobs where it was damn near constant hate in one way or another. Patients with dementia on my main job, plus the occasional coworker that just didn’t mesh. On my steadiest side job, I was a bouncer, and if you go a night without someone hating your guts, mark that shit in the calendar because it’s your new holy day.

So I had my give-a-shitter demolished by the time I could drink legally, and I’m not joking. By the time I was 21, I just did not give a fuck about being liked. It’s nice when it happens, but it wasn’t something I put any energy into at all. I just started doing my thing, being me, and enjoying the company of folks that are down with that.

It actually made dating in specific so much more pleasant.

But, yeah, you take enough hits on those reviews, start noticing the pattern that it’s people you would never be able to satisfy in the first place, and it’ll eventually roll off of you.

Do you like everyone? Probably not. Just because people don’t like each other doesn’t mean something is wrong. You can even love somebody and want nothing to do with them.

70% of people are idiots so you’re doing pretty well. Only 9/10 dentists can agree on a toothpaste ffs!

I tend to think people who don’t like me are the bad weird.

I just don’t give a shit.