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  • Poly-cotton shouldn’t have reacted like that.

    Poop, by itself, doesn’t do much of anything to black dyes. At most, you might run into a spot where it weakened the cotton fibers, but it should have done that only where the feces was in direct contact with the fabric. Poo can be acidic enough to weaken some natural fibers, I’ve just never seen it do so after being soaked and diluted by a significant amount of water.

    So, I’d expect the undies to be discolored, not something washed with them.

    The only reason it matters is that if the fabric of the sock is damaged, you’ll have issues getting any new dye to do much.

    But that’s the answer, dye. You can try washing it again to see if the color change is from residual detergent (which isn’t usually going to only appear on one sock and not the things touching the sock as well), but once cotton loses pigment, you have to apply more to get it back.

    Cheap option is a sharpie. The color won’t match exactly, but it’s cheap and fast Rit dye is the next option, but the black tends to be more of a dark gray on poly blends, in my experience. Heck, it’s barely black black on cotton. And it tends to wash out to a dark gray in a few washes even then. I’m not sure where you’d get the dyes that manufacturers use, I’ve never had call to try. But that’s the final option.

    But, when you wash/rinse it to see if it’s residue or whatever, cold water isn’t special. Warm or hot water would dissolve the likely culprits better, but don’t use a detergent. The goal is to get out any residue, not add in more soap that could be what’s causing the color change to begin with.

    I also noticed you said “abundant detergent”. Extra laundry soap isn’t beneficial. You don’t really get things cleaner after a normal amount for the size of the load, you just get soap left behind.




  • Same as anyone, tbh.

    Identity is internal, always.

    The only question is if you can get anyone else to go along with it. If you’re Irish, pale and otherwise unremarkable, good luck convincing anyone you’re black, much less a specific African ethnicity, you dig?

    For folks that are multiethnic, there’s a different challenge. It isn’t so much that, depending on what ethnicities are involved, you can’t get people to agree at all, it’s that some combinations are rejected by both/all of those groups, or have trouble with their identity not fully matching the culture of those ethnicities.

    That’s true even when the two groups are the same “race”.

    There’s also the ugly truth that in many parts of the world (not just places once colonized my Europeans and/or part of the slave trade) there’s a one drop mentality still in place.

    Here in the states? You’ll be up against it if you have any African ancestry that shows. Even if you just look dark enough for someone to assume that heritage, you’ll get pegged as black, and good luck with it since it doesn’t really matter what race the other person is, they’ll have an opinion on what you “really” are.

    It’s bullshit, but the world just hasn’t moved past it yet.

    So, when it comes to your self, your inner being, it’s more useful to identify as whatever your culture is than race or even ethnicity, when you’re multiethnic. Just don’t play the game at all, reject the bullshit and build your self based on more reliable factors.

    If you want to partake in the racial cultures your appearance and heritage match, go for it. Chances are you’ll have hassles with any/all of them, but it won’t be all the time.

    Lemme give am example.

    My sister in law has a dad that’s very dark skinned, and is a descendant of slaves. Recently enough that his grandmother was a slave. Her mom is descended from german immigrants that came over sometime in the late 1700s or early 1800 (the dates in family bibles contradict). So, her mom is white, and was raised with a good bit of the German immigrant culture.

    She identifies as multiethnic. She embraces both known heritages and their associated cultures. She doesn’t feel the need to pick one. And she’ll fight over it too. She has fought over it. My favorite quote of hers is “I’m fucking American, deal with it”. And she’s so fucking right :)

    Now, compare that to one of my cousins. Dad is the same mix of German, Irish, and miscellaneous European descent that I am. Mom is black, light skinned, and embraces black american cultures. My cousin says he’s black, but also accepts and enjoys the other parts of his heritage.

    There’s no single answer for you. You are, identity wise, whatever you’re willing to claim and enforce. If you’re dark skinned, you’ll have a harder fight enforcing that you’re “white”, no matter how much of your ancestry is from people with pale skin. But you can enforce it, and make that identity work. But, if you’re very dark skinned and lay claim to (as an example) whatever polish heritage you have and say you’re polish, you’ll likely have less fighting to do.

    If you’re more asking what boxes you check on forms, it really is about skin color more often than not, here in the states, and in some other places from what I’ve heard.





  • And, again, since you had nothing to contribute, maybe scrolling past would have been better than being a dick about it.

    Just saying, it’s an option. The post didn’t do anything to inconvenience you any more than any other random post. OP didn’t name you in specific to give a response, no matter what it might be.

    That’s what it comes down to.

    It’s Wheaton’s law. Don’t be a dick.

    So, apply it. Be better. We can all use improvement in how we treat people, right? I mean, you’re making some kind of reaction to being told your words were dickish. Anyone would. So, don’t double down. Don’t make excuses. Just use it in the future.



  • That’s a harder question.

    Part of it is the written version. O and 0 tend to look the same, so there’s a tendency to think of them as the same.

    Part of it is the “hardness” of the syllables. Zero vs cero vs zéro, vs the confusing mass that is zero in Italian.

    I hear less Spanish people say O, and I think that’s because cero is pronounced almost as a single syllable. The r is short, and the O is said with almost no lip shaping.

    Contrast that with French where it’s distinctly zay-ro or zay-ruh with that nasal thing on the last syllable.

    But, I have less exposure to French speakers (really only french Canadiens, a few cajuns and Creole, and whatever is on tv), so my sources could be skewed. Since all my experience with French speakers saying “oh” (usually with that nasal thing) is pretty much from people living in the US, it could be they picked it up from English.

    My exposure to Italian amounts to chef boyardee and one exchange student

    I have heard Germans do it when reading off telephone numbers, and I mean from Germany, not even living here in the states.


  • You don’t. You care about what you care about.

    What you can do is a combination of stone face and meditation.

    Stone face is never giving a reaction of any kind. They shoot off their mouth, you just look away, walk away, or stare blankly at them. Should they question it, you just state you’re going back to work (if leaving their presence), or “nothing” with nothing else added.

    The meditation part is so that you don’t crack. You learn to control your breathing, which gives you the later ability to both exist in the now without dwelling on the events of the now, with the side benefit of being able to tune useless signals out.

    Both take practice. And they kinda depend on each other. You do stone face without meditation, you end up just eating yourself up inside from the stress. You do meditation without stone face, you end up looking calm and happy, which encourages the behavior.

    Now, it’s important to remember to do it when a person is voicing their silliness that you agree with, too. See, if you only go blank with one area of politics, or only that person’s religious vomit, you end up causing problems for yourself. So hold everyone to the same standard that politics and religion are just utterly useless to bring up around you.

    Are there cases where someone is going to push? Sure. You fall back to stating that you’re hearing them out, but you have work to do. This does come with the consequence that you’re going to have to also stay distant with other conversation and stay on task at work, at least verbally. That can be a loss if the workplace is otherwise relaxed and less “work now scumdog slave!”, but it usually ends up being worth that.


  • Definitely not just a US thing, and it really is just the difference in syllables.

    There’s a fancy name for it in linguistics, but shortening words in speech and writing is a thing that’s human.

    Not every language shortens every word, obviously. But when something is common enough in usage, it gets as short as possible.

    Zero is one of two single digits with multiple syllables. I’m still surprised seven hasn’t gotten trimmed down in speech yet. Closest I’ve heard is “seb’n”, which is a teeny bit faster because of three way the lips move with a b vs a v.

    Since there’s a letter sound that closely matches the written numeral (and, being real, they’re written the same, just not machine printed the same), it just makes sense that “oh” gets substituted rather than it getting elided in some way.





  • We have it, usually.

    You’ll run into it in different ways though. Apartments rely pretty much purely on whatever environmental controls are in place. You move the air mechanically, along with whatever heat and cooling goes on. Some have windows as well.

    Houses, it’s turned into the same thing a lot of places. Particularly with new builds, but even those have ways to manage air flow for the house itself, when the area calls for it.

    Older houses? Plenty of air flow. Windows, higher ceilings (in warmer climates), floorplans that allow for doors to be open to the outside (but screened) on opposite ends, etc. There’s a lot of ways to manage living space airflow. Plus attics for more general purposes than comfort and environmental management of living spaces.

    You’ll see higher houses here in the south a lot because higher ceilings gave you better relief from heat. We also tend to have attic space that’s meant to keep hot air moving out and away. Up north, as I understand it, it’s more about balancing summer and winter needs, whereas we didn’t historically have severe enough winters to worry as much about the balance, even here in the mountains. I don’t doubt there’s equivalents for desert building, coastal, etc.

    Back before AC and central heating, pretty much every design of houses had a solution for controlling how air moved.


  • High school, not college.

    Chilling in the halls, first day of junior year

    New kid comes up, asks where a room is.

    New kid is all dressed up; suit, tie, nice shoes.

    But new kid is smiling and friendly.

    Give new kid directions, he says thanks and turns to go.

    I tell him he better dump his drink before he goes to class, students aren’t allowed to have sodas in class.

    He gives me weird look, says thanks again, walks away.

    Three hours later, new kid is behind teacher’s desk of American history class.

    Be me: confused and slowly realizing.

    Mr B slowly lifts a cold can of coke, takes sip and grins.

    Mfw the teacher is shorter than me, looks younger than me, and has just established dominance with a friendly smile.