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    Am I the only one who thinks this looks cool? If he said nothing about it being related to Iron Man 3 (one of the worst MCU movies at the time) I think it would have been acceptable. Wedding rings a fucking stupid anyway buying an expensive one just means you are a mark who does not deserve money.

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    The only good design choice in this thing is that it covers the sharp edges of the main gemstone, so that it wouldn’t get stuck on things. But it doesn’t make it worth it.

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    My wife’s engagement ring was custom made! It is a key blade with the kingdom hearts logo on the front, with tiny tiny diamonds on the hearts and 3 small sapphires in the little crown on the heart. I tried to get moissanite, but because the diamonds are so small, they said they don’t make moissanite that small, and it would save fractions of a dollar.

    It cost me less than half a semester’s tuition in college, so not super expensive like the “3 months salary” bullcrap.

    In fact, I had to go through two jewelers for this because when I was pitching the concept to the first one, they saw the Disney logo on the key blade and refused to do it. I just clipped that out when I went to another shop.

    Pics: https://imgur.com/gallery/SlD4b

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    Okay so here’s a tip that I didn’t need to be told because I figured out of my own. Ask her what she likes. If you don’t want to do that for whatever stupid reason, then casually point out a ring you saw and ask her what she thinks. There are subtle ways to handle it. “I saw a wedding ring that used a sapphire, what do you think of that” or “hey look at the ring in this picture I saw online,” then listen to her opinion. If you do that a few times she might start to actually realize that you’re going to ask her to marry you and give you useful feedback, assuming she doesn’t state something useful in the meantime, such as “diamond would be better” or “I like that design but not the gemstones.”

    Of course if you haven’t talked about that kind of thing already, clearly you’re doing something wrong. My fiancee knew I was going to ask her to marry her, just not when or how. Well she figured out on the day that was coming because your girl is almost certainly better at picking up on subtlety than you are, especially when it comes to you.

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      if you haven’t talked about that kind of thing already, clearly you’re doing something wrong.

      Yep. There are some cases where you should know the answer before you ask the question. Proposals are one of those cases.

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      We did something like that. We both had talked about getting married, so we were both on the same page (this is very important). We both went and looked at rings, decided which we’d want and which sizes fit us, then I bought them and asked the jewler to engrave the date of the proposal. The wife wasn’t allowed to see, obviously, so she only knew that it was going to happen *someday * but not when.

      The date went great and she said yes. Everyone happy.

      I recommend my colleague to do the same. He did not. Now he’s trying to return the ring which is both too big and wrong style.

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        Over heard it says that the engagement itself should never be a surprise, just the when and where.

        Oh and I’ll add in to listen to her if she says she wants/doesn’t want something specific. If she doesn’t want it to be a big public thing, then don’t propose on the stadium fan-cam. If she likes hiking, do it while hiking (but not somewhere the ring can fall in a river or off a cliff). Stuff like that.

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        I found out i was getting married when my wife asked, “is it weird i am looking at engagement rings?” I was like, “haha. I guess we are getting married”.

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    yall know you don’t need to buy these things right?

    Go find a funny rock or two somewhere on a stream, it’s as good as any ring, except you can’t wear it on your finger, which is probably good anyway.

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      Even if you want a ring, we got wooden rings. Cost like $100 for some really nice ones with fire opal inlay from an online craftsman. I’ve already cracked mine a little by being a dumbass with heavy car parts so I’m just ordering another. It’s cheap, and on top of that if I had dropped a brake rotor onto a gold or metal ring it might have gotten flattened and trapped on my finger. The wood just cracked a little and flexed right back into its original shape.

      If I had a lathe and some motivation I could even make my own, but I’m happy paying the relatively modest price of a single Benjamin for a well crafted ring with inlay.

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      I got my husband an engagement watch. It’s an analog watch with a 24 hour dial, and it was very hard to find. He was delighted (especially since the ring he was getting made for me was delayed by about 4 months because of Covid)

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        that’s cool, i’m a fan of analog watches in the mechanical sense, mechanical contraptions are one of the most fascinating human developments of all time.

        Doubles as a neat collectors piece, and gift as well!

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      I had a girlfriend asking me like twice a week for a year- when I was going to propose and then I did and she said no.

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        I had a girlfriend asking me like twice a week for a year- when I was going to propose and then I did and she said no

        Trolling level champion

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        When they ask you like that… it’s the cue o have a conversation on the F-ing subject. What are your hopes and dreams, kids, quick wedding or elaborate… you know… discuss what the future would hold together.

        Once you have had those conversations you also know what the answer to a proposal will be.

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          To me. They are asking you to propose. If they want to have a conversation there have the fucking conversation. Don’t play games. No one can read minds.

          But it doesn’t matter to me either way. I don’t date. I won’t date. I’m done with dating. And I will never get married.

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            Regardless of what they are asking, you should have that conversation for your own sake, not just theirs. Though I’d also argue that if you are going to get married, you should want to do it for their sake, too. And if you resent them for not speaking their mind, don’t marry them.

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            It’s not always playing games… some people also just come out and say it… others will mask it with a joke… but then the conversation needs to be had. Not always full serious… we need to talk… but this is a good cue. As the other poster said … for both your sakes.

            Hope you are OK… don’t know how to read your “I’m don’t with it”.

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          LPT: Don’t give queues that can be severely misunderstood, just fucking ask what you want to know.

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          When they ask you like that…

          just so we’re clear here. When you ask someone to propose to you, you’re asking them to propose to you, there’s a place and a time for doing a haha funny this is actually not linear thought processing, for example you’re in a car, i’m waiting for you to pick me up so i tell you “run me over when you see me” that would obviously be a joke.

          you ask someone what their thoughts on marriage are, if you’re curious what their thoughts on marriage are, the english language isn’t hard. If you have to do it multiple times, maybe you should probably, idk, ask more forwardly.

          to be clear OP is probably a bit of a dumbass, but to be clear, it’s not their fault.

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            Like that… I mean in general when the topic of marriage is brought up in a circumstance that is not an obvious joke. And even when used as a joke it is something that should be taken as a queue to probe the subject… Verify that it’s not a joke hiding more. Some people are dumbasses but also some people think it’s hard to bring up the subject.

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              I once had a girl randomly tell me she wasn’t ready to get married. I was just like “uh, okay, I wasn’t planning to ask you”. What she really meant was she was cheating on me and wanted to break up.

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                That sucks… I’d call her a cheating whore… but for the same you might still be together… life is funny in a crying kind of way.

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              like, i mean it might be hard to bring up, but i’m going to be bluntly honest here, probably don’t bring it up if you don’t feel ready or comfortable talking about it, you can always talk about the fact you’re uncomfortable about it as well. That’s another option.

              There’s always a certain level of what i like to call conversational formality that one should apply. In the english language we use words like, the and ah an a i me, and various other words to help describe the specifics of what we’re talking about.

              You can say something like “i have a blue backpack, it sits on that wall over there, there’s something important inside”

              or you can say something like “blue bag, wall, important”

              they both convey roughly the same message, but the former has vastly more detail in it, and is substantially more comprehend-able.

              In the same way that you wouldn’t say “blue bag” when referring to something specific, you shouldn’t say “when are we getting married” in lieu of talking about marriage, it’s just not formal, or respectful at all. Personally, i just ignore anything like that that people say, if they don’t want me to know specifically what they’re talking about it’s not my problem, they can prod more, or simply do nothing about it. I could always ask, but again, wasn’t my idea.

              i don’t know why people dance around topics like this, maybe i’m just highly autistic or something, but it just pisses me off. It’s almost like my time isn’t worth utilizing to the point of having a real discussion, so instead we’re having a meaningless conversation that doesn’t have a defined start or end, with no expected results.

              for something like marriage it’s literally as simple as “hey, so what do you think about marriage?” and you can go from there, which is even less confrontational than something like “when are you going to propose to me?”

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          We did all of that but then she decided she wanted someone who went to the same church, she told me maybe if I joined her church. Her church beat two children to death trying to expel demons. We actually separated after we couldn’t work it out

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    I mean, it’s at least worth the value of the stones and the raw materials of the band if it’s recoverable without it all being red. But that is some “Holy Autism, Batman,” levels of understanding what women, or any halfway average person would want.

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    I don’t even get how it’s iron man 3 themed? The Mk 42 was mostly gold

    This looks more reminiscent of the suit he wore at the beginning of Iron Man 2

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      My first date with my husband, we went for dinner. I’m not going to want a broccoli themed ring. This is just odd. If she was a big iron man fan, perhaps it would work but just seeing a movie once isn’t that. This speaks not just to bad choices but a lack of maturity and understanding each other. Probably good she said no.

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        I made this to commemorate your first date with your husband, will you marry me and wear this on your finger forever?