• Etterra@discuss.online
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    3 days ago

    I’ve never been a fan of tattoos. They look awful and, in the case of women distract from beauty, not add to it. That said, they can do whatever the hell they want. It’s not my body or problem and they ain’t hurting anyone.

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      Maybe not all women actually want you to be looking at them thinking ‘Wow, beautiful, yum.’ So many women get so much shit from men every day all the time, often since they were still wearing school uniform. Like you say, it’s not your body and they ain’t hurting anyone. I just think it’s really easy to understand why some women want to take ownership of their skin when there’s so many arsehole men thinking they’ve got a right to stare and touch it.

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        Did you stop reading after the second sentence or are you saying that he’s not allowed to have that opinion because some girl somewhere might disagree with it

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              They look awful and, in the case of women distract from beauty, not add to it.

              I don’t really want to spend a lot of time doing some critical analysis here but give it a think. Implies beauty is important for women and not men, and their beauty is contingent on his viewing. This is basic male gaze stuff.

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                Anyone can have an opinion, the point is that whatever my opinion is there’s no reason to make it her problem.

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            Woman does something.

            Someone thinks it’s not good.

            “WOW MISOGYNY”

            Plot twist: these tats would also be ugly AF on a guy. Now what, mfer.

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              Plot twist: these tats would also be ugly AF on a guy. Now what, mfer.

              They didn’t just say tattoos are ugly. They went out of his way to focus on how they detract from a woman’s beauty. Not men’s beauty. The subtle “women should look beautiful for me” is what’s not good here.

              Their take could have been worse. They acknowledged that it’s harmless and not their body. That’s good.

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                The subtle “women should look beautiful for me” is what’s not good here.

                Offering benefit of the doubt, one might assume he referred to women’s beauty in particular because this meme is about a woman, or perhaps he isn’t gay/bi, and doesn’t think about men’s beauty. Or both. Or maybe something else. Misogyny is one of the possibilities, sure, but only one of the possibilities. I wouldn’t have phrased it that way, but I don’t think there’s enough there to take the route of condemnation, personally.

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      They look awful and, in the case of women distract from beauty, not add to it.

      You did the thing where you gave a very personal, subjective, opinion as if it was a pure fact. You probably meant “it distracts me from their beauty” but you wrote it as if it’s a universal truth that applies to everyone.

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        Ehh I dunno… I don’t agree with him but we don’t have to preface our opinions with “this is just how I feel, but…”.

        If I say “this pizza is horrible”, it’s clear that it’s just something I think and not everyone has to share that opinion. The subjectivity of the statement kinda speaks for itself y’know?

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          “this pizza is horrible” isn’t misogyny though, so it doesn’t benefit from the distancing.

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        You did the thing where you policed the way someone else phrased their opinion by purposely misunderstanding their intent. He literally began his post by stating an opinion.

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      Yeah this was me when my coworkers were raving about how hot luigi is like “not my type but I can see why you might be into it.” There’s a lid for every pot and people need to stop hating on lids that clearly weren’t made for their pot to begin with. Especially since there’s some really weird pots out there so just mind your business and leave those freaky lids alone.

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      depends on the tattoo, there’s some adorable ones out there, this one is what me and my sister are gonna get because I love frogs (username) and hers is gonna be a black cat because she has a black cat

      Random tattoos that are full black just for the hell of it aren’t that interesting, however, you do you boo.