Don’t apologize to people over little things, like being late or using too much of their time. Instead, thank them. Ex: instead of, “I’m sorry I’m such a mess”, say, “Thank you for being patient with me and supporting me.” It will make both you and the other person feel better than the alternative.

Get confident, stupid

Learn about the fundamental attribution bias, and make sure you compensate for it, including when thinking about yourself.

do the basic things we all know we should or at least set your self up for success with them. full sleep every night, stay hydrated, eat healthy, excersise, etc at least 80% of the time because cheating onece in a while is nice to.

Adopt the voice of your mother as a replacement for your inner voice (if she wasn’t bitch, of course). Let it be as kind and forgiving as a mother towards a small child.

Don’t insult yourself. It can be difficult at times, and it feels like a small thing to worry about, but it provides a large amount of progress in that regard. I will find myself revising my own thoughts when I slip, usually ending up with a much more constructive criticism of what I’m frustrated about.

Stay offline.

I separated myself from my brains “mean voice”. Because they’re not normal thoughts id have about other people, but separating them out I was able to address it differently and notice that “Her” presence is a sign something else might be going on in that moment. At first I was pretty brutal with her back, but over the years I got gentler with her and came to respect that she’s trying to protect me from something (no matter how misguided). I think the real healing came from that moment I was kind and gentle with Her when She’d say the stuff she’d say, but it started with me separating herself out so I could examine it as something distinct from my Self.

Learn to recognize automatic negative thoughts.

In what way are you mean to yourself?

Do something today that your future self will appreciate. What would you do to a friend to be kind? Do that for yourself in the future.

Anytime negative self criticism comes to mind allow that thought then challenge it with positivity. “I spilt my coffee all over my table because I’m stupid” “but I also cleaned that mess quickly, I also know that everyone makes this same mistake so how am I stupid”

Sometimes negative thought may appear like a bad relationship, one may feel guilty for thinking negatively about that relationship or what ever it is but sometimes we’re allowed to feel these things towards previous situations. “Can’t believe I wasted a year with that person only to be cheated on” “and now I am in a foal mood for thinking about it” “well actually its healthy to grieve and thats what this is”

A lot of therapy is about changing our own perspectives. Introspection can be a great tool, learning to sit with and question ones own reasoning is the most important part of the process.

Smoke two joints in the morning.

Become your own grandpa

Works only for Germans.

Imagine yourself as one of your inner circle Friends and sometimes check if you would talk to your friends like your brain talks / thinks about you. We are often so mean / demanding to ourself and often dont know when something is not good for us, but we tend to be good at caring for our friends.

It’s not an ideal situation, but somebody who you want to be kinder to themselves can motivate you to set an example.