Suddenly realize as a 24 year old i might be really young for lemmy. Every one is above 30s lol
Edit: and most seem to be ADHD, questioning what am i doing here.
25
25 also
Being ADHD and getting closer to our age
This one hits hard…
34! I was hoping one day I’d figure out what to do in life and through that knowledge everything would just click into place and things would feel good and right and worth doing. Turns out the answer to life’s great mystery is amphetamine.
But damn does pharmaceutical smack make life worth living or what. If only I hadn’t spent nearly 30 years digging myself into a hole before I started it.
Word.
lol 30. Hitting 41 and still don’t get it. But 42 will show me the meaning of life and everything.
Incorrect. I just hit 43, and there’s no meaning of life, the universe, or anything.
The cake is a lie.
Though I do get the joke, the meaning of life is what you make of it. If you expect it to reveal itself to you at one point, you’ll be disappointed.
The meaning of life is what you make of it, if you are able. Pretty big caveat.
35 and still have these walls between me and the simplest tasks. No idea if it’s ADHD, but somehow I manage to get through.
That’s similar to my experience with getting diagnosed in my early 30s (after forgetting about a childhood diagnosis with no treatment). Missing from the statement is the profound impact to self-esteem from being incapable of doing things that one should be readily capable of and being told that one needs to “apply themselves”, as well as the emotional self-harm from judging oneself by neurotypical standards.
Also, good seeing you posting again, Stamets. Hope things are going well.
I was diagnosed at the same age and identify with everything you said.
The most demoralizing thing is feeling worthless when society bases the justification for your existence on how well you impress in a “competitive job market”, judged by sociopaths against neurotypical standards. Expected to be the most charming person ever while maintaining machine-like consistency.
No amount of self "it’s okay buddy you’re just different"s change material reality. And it’s infuriating. :(
I wish I had some magical advice on that but, good therapy (with skills and experience with adult ADHD and trauma), radical acceptance, medication, and developing positive coping skills is what I’ve got. Still easy to fall into negativity.
A good learning that I had from my therapist is that, regardless of level of success in coping that one attains, going through childhood and early adulthood without support for ADHD and/or other neurodivergence is psychologically traumatic. And that trauma needs to heal. Unfortunately, just like grief, the scars are permanent but, we can get better and let the parts of us that get overshadowed by the trauma and maladaptive coping strategies get some time in the limelight (easier said than done).
Shit
Mid-40s like most everyone else here apparently
This one hurts.
Why do today what you can put off until tomorrow. The bane of every project, started or not.
been cleaning that basement tomorrow for 4 years now.
even started it twice.
30 seems like only yesterday
90 actually.
Guess you’re pretty confident to get that done this year. Right? 😁
*40
The best part is being 53 and still totally believing it every single day. I’m going to absolutely crush tomorrow!!!
I’m gonna do my meditation via the monroe institute tapes… starting… uhhh… in five minutes
I think this every single day when my alarm wakes me for Gym.
Haha. High five (10 times and then high three). 1971 babies unite! (…tomorrow).
The more that I read about ADHD, the more I think that I should get checked out for it.
As someone who finally got diagnosed at nearly 30, this hurts. Fuck, I’ve wasted so much of my life.
