• 2ugly2live@lemmy.world
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    • Living with your parents as an adult.
    • Not knowing how to do “basic” things (as long as you work on them once the issue is presented)
    • Playing with toys/collectables
    • Being scared of the dark
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    Breaking the “rules” of masculinity.

    Many years ago I worked for a medical company. A coworker (Boomer dude) and I were demonstrating a lift mechanism when I made the joke: last time I got in a harness, there was a safe word.

    The joke killed, but my coworker was mad for weeks because in the joke, I implied we were going to have sex.

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      I think it’s totally reasonable to be mad at someone for being sexually suggestive, especially in a work environment.

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      A lot of these rules are stupid.

      Recently there was a news article about a politician dissing Kamala Harris’ husband for grocery shopping with her. The fact that anyone would even stop to consider it not being “masculine” is corny as fuck.

      I do this with my wife all the time—we both eat, and we have wildly different diets (I’m vegan)—why would I just pile all my shit on her plate and make it her responsibility? Because I might be seen as gay by someone in a MAGA hat?

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          I mean that’s fine, we’re all different. If your partner doesn’t mind doing the shopping that’s fine too.

          The problem here is that people really find it “unmanly” to go to the grocery store.

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    Public speaking, I could wake up in my underwear in front of 10,000 people and comfortably talk about anything Im informed about. I dont get the fear at all.

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      I can understand not sharing the fear response, but do you really mean you don’t get it? Like, having thousands of people waiting on your every word and silently judging you on every tiny mistake, or the nervous tics that you do and don’t even know about?

      I know it’s an irrational fear, but it’s still real to me 😂

      Thinking about it, maybe by “get” the fear, I think you’re saying it doesn’t happen to you. I gotta say I envy you for that.

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        No nervousness at all. Anything that’s going to happen will happen and worrying will change nothing. The only thing I care about is not giving incorrect information. The larger the crowd the easier it is.

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      I love it and enjoy it, but it involuntarily makes my legs tremble and my mouth dry. But emotionally I feel fine

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    Eating out alone is great. You get to be adjacent to people without actually needing to interact with them.

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      I like doing this at specific spots. Like a side street with a nice view where you can people watch

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      It does suck when there’s a bunch of stuff you want to try on the menu and itd be way easier if there were other people so you can share. Or when it’s a type of food that’s better for a group like hot pot or Korean bbq

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    telling people how much money i make. i want everyone at my job to be aware of any inconsistent salary payments so they can use it to ask for adjustments.

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    Paying for sex. Way better than pretending you like somone and string them along for sex. Or worse force yourself on somebody. If you’re going out the regular way you will probably spend just as much.

    This way you get to do it with someone who looks the way you want, is a professional and therefore pretty good at what they do. Also you can probably get someone to fulfill the kink you’re obsessing about but are unlikely to find somebody who’s somehow equally interested in as yourself.

    A problem is human traficing, but that’s exactly why the taboo needs lifting. If people can have a sex job, be safe and self supporting and a tax paying member of society there’s only upsides.

    The insecurity and frustration in (mainly) young guys that need to get laid but ‘would never pay for sex’ out of some moral point of view is very detrimental to male-female relations. If this were more socially acceptable it would be of benefit to society.

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    Being wrong.

    I’m wrong sometimes, no big deal. Finding out what is correct is just another learning experience.

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      Had this conversation with my wife early in our marriage. I got the, “fine, I’m wrong, you’re right. You’re always right.” And I said, “I’m not always right. I’m often wrong. I just don’t make a big deal out of it, apologize if I need to, and we all move on and you forget about it. You remember all the times you’re wrong because it always turns into a conversation like this.” Then she started noticing and started being more chill about being wrong (she grew up in a VERY shitty household with a narcissist mother where admission of wronghood was an opportunity to get absolutely shit on).

      It’s amazing how a simple, “oh, you’re right, my bad” can improve your life and reputation.

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      Ugh. yes. im in tech and people seem shocked if I say I don’t know something. interviews to. Its like I don’t know what that is but is it related to X or can you give ma an idea of what area that word is from.

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    Poo. Everyone needs to do it. Some people have bags instead of bumholes. I have a condition which means I need medication or I’ll shit myself into a serious illness or injury. How many people would be saved if they weren’t so hung up on talking about their poo?

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        Made for a very awkward video, wherein a ton of people shat themselves in their cars and then got out and wandered around, looking for a bathroom.

        We’ve all done it, but we didn’t mingle with each other afterwards.

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      I have a girl friend who has some of the loudest shits. They rival dad shits. It always impresses me because I’m still pretty shy about loo tooting.

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        I didn’t know how old you are, but I’m at an age when I’ve realized that I likely won’t outgrown laughing when I hear someone else in a public bathroom rip a fart while taking a dump.

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          There’s this guy on IG that fake farts in public and records people’s reactions. Everyone laughs. 10/10 this guy is my hero.

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    Taking a fat shit in a public restroom. No reason to be shy about it. Everyones gotta go sometimes.

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      I’ve no embarrassment about shitting in public, but I still prefer my own bathroom for sanitary and comfort reasons.