I don’t think it’s the 5 minutes so much as it’s the making a kid stand in a corner facing the wall. I’m not sure if that constitutes “child abuse” but I’d never make a kid do that. Pull a kid away from what they’re doing when they’re misbehaving sure, make them sit out for a bit, but I don’t think creating a shame corner is very healthy
It’s really too bad, because forcing a child to stop and think is actually really good and healthy. It’s just been combined with this toxic and vindictive punishment mindset that treats children as animals that need to be trained.
I think that besides all that its also a… weird suggestion? ‘Go to the shame corner and look at the wall!’ sounds like something an alien would say when managing children. It comes across to me that they’re not actually engaging with a discussion about permissive parenting, they’re defending a specific practice which they think is legitimate. Without stopping and thinking about whether it makes sense.
I can imagine some hyperactive children I know hating the silence corner for all of 5 minutes before they forget it was even a thing. But the parents I know wouldn’t even think of using it. They’d retract phone/toy/game privileges instead.
I don’t think it’s the 5 minutes so much as it’s the making a kid stand in a corner facing the wall. I’m not sure if that constitutes “child abuse” but I’d never make a kid do that. Pull a kid away from what they’re doing when they’re misbehaving sure, make them sit out for a bit, but I don’t think creating a shame corner is very healthy
Yeah, it’s a humiliation ritual.
It’s really too bad, because forcing a child to stop and think is actually really good and healthy. It’s just been combined with this toxic and vindictive punishment mindset that treats children as animals that need to be trained.
I think that besides all that its also a… weird suggestion? ‘Go to the shame corner and look at the wall!’ sounds like something an alien would say when managing children. It comes across to me that they’re not actually engaging with a discussion about permissive parenting, they’re defending a specific practice which they think is legitimate. Without stopping and thinking about whether it makes sense.
I can imagine some hyperactive children I know hating the silence corner for all of 5 minutes before they forget it was even a thing. But the parents I know wouldn’t even think of using it. They’d retract phone/toy/game privileges instead.