What was it about? Did you admit you were wrong or adamantly insist on your point? How did your interlocutor react? How would you like someone to react if you concede errors?

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    No, this hasn’t happened to me. And it’s not because I can’t admit that I’m wrong. I just don’t get into arguments unless I am very well versed on the topic. If I’m not sufficiently versed, then I will do additional research before staking a position. I can confidently say that I have never had to reverse myself partway through because I always come from a position of thought and knowledge and don’t wade in lightly.

    Except, now that I think about it, there was one time where I was completely mistaken on a political topic. I won’t go into details here, but I guess I really blew that. So just the one time.

    Hmm, I’m remembering another incident upon reflecting on the first. I was in a rush and didn’t think about my position very carefully before calling the other guy a Nazi crybaby. Turns out his dad died fighting the Nazis in North Africa, and he had been carrying the mantle ever since.

    But other than that, no, I have never reversed myself mid argument because I always think carefully before typing something out, especially if it is going to be long.

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      2 months ago

      When you learn what you thought was a yes or no question, is actually multiple choice. You didn’t even understand the question but foolishly stood your ground to answer it.

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    2 months ago

    The only times I struggle to admit I’m wrong is if my interlocutor has an attitude I find grating. Sometimes in online debates I just don’t reply and give people the last word instead of continuing a heated conversation if I think they have a point.

    Otherwise happy to admit that I’m wrong if someone cites a study or whatever that says something counter to what I’m claiming.

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    Being wrong is a great way to learn. Everyone is wrong sometimes, so I don’t see it as a flaw to be ashamed of. I think the best way to handle being wrong is to acknowledge it and treat it as a learning opportunity.

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    Somewhat regularly with my wife. Not in a “wife bad” way, more “wife smart”. If it’s heated she can struggle with cooling off. But usually it’s fine

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    Often. I just say something like “okay, you might be right/you’re entirely right, my bad and thank you”. I like to ask and answer all sorts of things, this happens somewhat often, lol.

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      If people were never extraordinarily wrong about things, we’d have nothing to argue about on the Internet. What a blessing!

      I guess the question is how often do you realize that you’re actually on the wrong side of that argument, it definitely happens. And then what do you do next? Dig your heels in, double down and keep arguing? Or acknowledge the realization, make a concession or even apology?

      Evidently, it can be hard to be a decent person (hard for all of us), when anonymity means there are no personal consequences to being a dick.

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    2 months ago

    Several times! And not necessarily wrong, but missing a perspective that changes my opinion. That’s how we learn and grow. It’s also why you and more people should read books.

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    Oh yeah. Happens to me not infrequently, though less as I get older and choose my battles more wisely.

    On my best days, I apologize and bow out of the discussion. On my worst days, I just ghost the entire thread.

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      Choosing your battles wisely seems to be good advice. I think it’s a good quality, if people can concede if they were wrong. I hsbe the impression that being wrong is too often sanctioned or frowned upon, whereas a more accepting, forgiving stance might make it easier for people to admit their errors.

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        I think there are definitely a lot of compounding issues that all combine to make admitting you’re wrong something that’s really hard to do. Some of them related to brain chemistry, some of them entirely societal, like you mentioned. But I do think that it’s on the person who was wrong to be the one who does the growing; it shouldn’t be society that has to pick up the slack for an arrogant and incorrect person.

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    At this point in my life, I’m extremely comfortable admitting when I’m wrong. It earns credibility.