For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.
On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.
From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.
Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!
I’m not a parent but I think in general unnecessary cosmetic surgery should be left up to the individual especially when it is related to genitals. I understand wanting to help them conform to norms to try to give them an easier life and there are some surgeries I think make sense like a cleft palate or an infant with burns, but if it’s not necessary you’re taking away their bodily autonomy and I think that’s a very important line morally. You need to determine if you think it’s necessary or unnecessary, and if the discomfort of a possible later in life surgery pushed it past the moral boundary or not.
I’ve never wished that I was circumcised. And anyone who thinks my dick is gross doesn’t sound like they’d be fun to fuck, anyway.
I sure as hell didn’t get my son circumcised. Don’t do it, let your son make that choice himself when he’s old enough.
To all those ignoring your question and trying to bully you. Fuck off. I commend you for trying to get more information on a divisive topic. Congrats on your son!
As someone who’s circumcised, I think it’s a practice we should leave behind. Buddy getting bullied was more about victimization than circumcision. Likewise any future partner that has that as a deal breaker either way is a bullet dodged.
That being said, I think some people overplay the victim card on this one. I think some people use it as a scapegoat to avoid acknowledging other issues like porn addiction, intimacy issues, and sexual incompatibility within relationships.
Than there’s the people who try to conflate a hospital performed medical procedure with Female Genital Mutilation from like rural Africa or India.
AFAIC if your biggest problem in life is that you’re circumcised… shut the fuck up? Or complain about something more important than your own dick.
TLDR: Don’t do it.
he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery.
Yeah, no. That was probably due to someone’s more complicated circumstances.
Did it myself as a young-ish adult due to worsening phymosis and recovery was normal, couple of weeks or a month like any stitched wound’s healing would do. Only weird and uncomfortable thing was the initial sensitivity of the tip, which completely waned off for the recovery period. I read plenty on other cases as I considered the circumcision myself, and nobody mentioned a painful recovery, recoveries sounded about same as mine.
Circumsizing your children is not really a thing in my country, except for muslims, but even if I had a boy I’d guess personally I’d leave it to them to decide if they need it when becoming an adult.
Don’t do it. That guy in high school had a choice and he made it, you’ll be robbing your child of any choice and it does have many downsides.
I think its a lot less common in the US these days. My 6yo isn’t, and to my knowledge none of the little kids in the family are either. My friend has 3 little boys all uncut
You think men- the demographic that are already so insecure about the size of their dick they will jump through hoops to defend or lie about their size- would give you an honest answer on this?
I was circumcised and don’t remember it in the slightest. The pain I went through as an infant has had no negative effects on my life. I have also regrown some of my foreskin slightly. Most partners don’t even know I have a foreskin.
I definitely wouldn’t mind getting that excess removed except for the pain and recovery as an adult and I’m guessing most men who have a foreskin would hesitate for the same reasons. It’s not exactly as elective a cosmetic surgery as an adult as people would make it seem.
But this question is like going into a group of religious folk and asking what god they support- theirs or another- No shit it’s going to be their own. Men are obsessed with their own dick.
Nope. Heavens no. It’s a feel-good part of the body, hell no.
The only requirement is to keep it clean. Parents shouldn’t shy away from educating your boys about this and have some open conversations about it.
Might as well ask if you wouldn’t mind having one fingertip shaved off at birth, the difference being you’d know what you were missing because you have the other fingers to compare it to.
Ok, so I’m a 38 year old uncircumcised Canadian male and on this issue, I have two opinions:
1.) Circumcision for moral, traditional, covenantial, or social cohesion reasons is child genital mutilation. Full stop, no second guesses…
2.) I have a larger-ish penis with a proportionally smaller frenulum and tighter foreskin. I am not bragging about size, I wish I was smaller because, when I get very aroused it can be quite painful. The foreskin frenulum pulls right against the tip of my penis and bends it down. If I were to excuse the frenulum and loosen my foreskin, I can imagine having sex when I am very erect would feel much better. This would be great because right now it feels like I’m trying to fuck with reigns on.
I have been exploring the idea of the loosening surgery, but obviously this is my choice, for aesthetic and pain management reasons.
The child has no choice, it’s abuse. I have a choice, it’s a medical procedure.
My 2¢: don’t
I was circumcised at birth by my parents, and it’s a source of frustration I have with them. Since it’s irreversible, there’s nothing I can do about it though.
Personally, I think circumcised penises look unnatural and weird.
Definitely not but I’m not American.
Please do not mutilate your child because of tradition.
I’ll trade fore some skin
I’m genuinely upset about not getting a say in the matter.
When a person gets circumcised they lose a ton of sensitivity and feeling from their dick, and it permanently degrades the quality of any sexual gratification they will have in their life.
And that’s not even touching on how fucked up it is to mutilate a child’s genitals for a religon that they can’t even consent to.
Considering that so many people are circumsized, and I have yet to meet anyone who says they are terribly unhappy about it, I’ll start off by saying that I really don’t think it matters either way.
However, I am uncircumsized, and American. I literally don’t think about it at all. I was bullied a lot in school - but never about my foreskin. I’ve slept with a lot of women - none of them have ever cared (the foreskin stretches away when you get hard, you can’t even see it).
Focus on giving your kid material resources and emotional support, and on setting a good example of being a happy, functional human. This just doesn’t matter
America has a 90 percent circumcision rate.
Canada has a 40 percent rate.
Most of the rest of the world doesn’t do that.
I’m not letting any stranger cut a piece of my boys parts off.
