You know, the guy who’s been having that same angry conversation about the same fucking thing he’s been obsessed with for the last 5 years and demands that you take his view while going on long monologues and then immediately interrupting anyone who tries to get a word in edgewise? And then goes into a weeks-long suicidal despair if you try to leave the conversation? Any way to deal with that?
Provide no opinions. Pretend like you know nothing about politics. Ask questions. They will argue themselves into a corner, get embarrassed, and then stop talking about it. It requires little effort from you, and they do all the work.
Move to the other side of the continent.
Tell him loudly that he doesn’t know shit and to shut the fuck up. This is the year you let it all out. You’ve been building a dam of tolerance for this person, a dam which he’s been trying to undermine because he’s too fucking dumb to understand the extreme restraint you have shown against the potential flood right behind those walls.
Let him have it.
you just don’t invite those people. if it’s out of your control, then you don’t engage
Slap your knees , say “whelp…” then stand up and walk away.
How to admit you are from the Midwest without directly admitting it…😉
Sounded pretty German to me in terms of behaviour LOL
If you engage even one out of ten times, you’re reinforcing it. You can redirect the conversation. Talk to another person, change the subject, completely disengage with them on that specific topic.
You can set expectations privately going in. Set the boundaries. Reiterate them gently but firmly in a general manner. Polite and businesslike when the forbidden topic comes up, cheerful and interested when any other topic comes up. Again, never directly engaging with the forbidden topic.
All this assumes you still want to get along with this person.
Just turn on FOX News for him. He’ll zone out on it as usual and leave everyone else alone.
Buy your own house, host the events and when they start up threaten loudly to throw them out if they keep on spewing that racist shit in your house.
Damn that felt good. Best thing ever about owning your own home.
Ok boomer
Got really lucky and bought when interest was low. While the house itself wasn’t cheap the money was.
Hair that covers ears and an earbud
Nov 4th elections.
Someone who becomes suicidal because you won’t listen to them rant is addicted to power and control. You’d ultimately be doing them a favor helping them wean themselves off it. You can’t be responsible for someone’s actions in this state. It’s a diametric opposite to, say, someone who is depressed/suicidal because they cannot afford food. They do not need you to listen to them. Tell them to fuck off.
I broke contact with my family over twenty years ago. I learned that blood doesn’t make family, good relationships do.
You know that quote “Blood is thicker than water”?
The entire quote is “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”.
We found our family, and that bond is as strong as any blood.
I just wish I had gotten away and found them sooner.
What happens if you actually leave the conversation?
why do you want those people in your life even if they are relatives?
If they can’t take a “sorry uncle Bob, but I disagree with everything you think of X. Why don’t we just avoid this and enjoy dinner”, then they are too emotionally immature/toxic to have in your life
I am thankful I do not have such relative.
And if I did, to the discard bin.
