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  • You know that Boomtown Rats song “I don’t like Mondays” it’s based off a female school shooter from the 70’s but yes female school shooters are rare. Trans femme shooters are even rarer with the majority trans shooters being trans men.

    Spree killing is almost entirely a male coded pastime. Serial killers have slightly higher rates of female participation. This event is quite a statistical anomaly. Canada has only had 10 school related shootings that counted as spree killings in its entire history and this one was commited by a demographic that is such a narrow slice of the pie chart of total spree killers worldwide that it is barely a hairswidth slice. Winning the lottery thrice has better odds.




  • Yup. Just one of her purchases put about 70,000 pounds Stirling in the hands of the lawyers that got gender recognition certificates rendered moot in the UK supreme court. Thats the landmark ruling that has since allowed bathroom, locker room , gym and sport single sex policing completely legitimate by UK authorities and forced “transgender row” in prisons to send trans prisoners to institutions of their birth sex.

    She does a lot more with her money than that but that was her single biggest win so far.



  • This is actually part of my weekly letter writing campaign. Canada signed onto the Canada US Safe Third Country Agreement in 2002 which basically means Americans cannot seek refugee status in Canada because wherever you land on the combined territory is where you seek asylum. This means because Americans set foot in America first they cannot seek refugee status in Canada under the legal agreement. The agreement has some room for "exceptions " but it takes a lot of looking into from legal scholarship and has held a risk of American diplomatic retaliation…

    Rainbow Railroad ,a Canadian based queer refugee charity, and a number of legal civil rights action groups have been campaigning for the past two years to start the process. A number of us have been writing to our MPs but with a lot of the crisises Canada has been dealing with from economic shocks and diplomatic wheeling and dealing to gain greater economic and security independence after a crash out with the US it seems to be ranked low on the agenda.

    We should do more… But we’re also going through a political alliance shift the likes of which would have seemed unthinkable five years ago. It’s a shit situation and nobody seems to want to draw more agro.

    Which is fucking killing me cuz I have so many trans American friends and I just want them to be actually safe 😭



  • I think it could go kind of bad for the US if they don’t remember that US bases on a lot of foreign soil only exist as a matter of their host country’s consent. A lot of American hard power, intelligence and military reach is tied up in defense networks that are goodwill arrangements. You already hear talks of the 5 eyes not volunteering information to the US anymore, if they spark a conflict with NATO there’s bit just a lot of their facilities that are potentially forfeit.


  • Good time to remember that there’s a lot that can be done that makes life hard for an invading force at multiple layers of passivity. You don’t have to always comply. Put pressure on hotels to refuse business so they don’t have comfortable spaces to sleep, deny service and food to agents at markets and restaurants, create visual systems and codes amongst your immigrant neighbours so that they can be aware when you have recently spotted an agent. Offer places to hide or stay to people who have gained their ire or are likely targets, take courses in first aid or reach out to causes that need volunteers.

    If you are more bold target things instead of people. Sugar in gas tanks, nails in tires, detergent thrown on windscreens, block roads they egress through regularly with things that take a long time to move or clean up that block roads or make them hazardous. Buildings have toilets that can be backed up or alarm systems that can disturb rest, phone numbers that can be found and spammed with bot callers or printers or faxes that can be sent endless jobs of black pages. Anything and everything that can be a minor annoyance, a problem that adds up or disables their ability to move, eat, sleep or relax.


  • Oftentimes the thing that keeps the USA in check from becoming the mafia Don of the world is knowledge that violations of international law enforces individual countries fixing their own problems and self determining their own governments. America acting like they can make decisions for other nations has always been internationally unwelcome. Breaching international law means consequences usually. People pull out of alliances, sweetheart deals evaporate, diplomatic power becomes strained and people stop sharing intelligence with you that helps keep your citizens safe. Sovereignty is a big deal. America has gotten away with a lot because they have a gun to the heads of the world due to how they ended WWII with their military complex intact while the rest of the world was spent. They leveraged that into hard (millitary/economic) and soft (diplomatic, collaborative, good faith) power.

    Thing is, this regime doesn’t value soft power at all. Previous administrations had to use a lot of subterfuge to weave deniabillity into their actions. The rest of the world had to step lightly around America because essentially they had the biggest stick but there was this idea that if you courted favour with the bully that at least meant you and your friends were safe. But look at what’s happening right now.

    America is pulling out of the international markets and international bodies of government. The message is clear that they are operating on hard power only because they believe themselves powerful enough to operate on their own and grab what they want… Even if that means economic sanctions that raise prices of nessesities, travel restrictions for citizens, intelligence gaps that leave targets open to their enemies or actual war that puts American lives at risk.

    They are “solving these problems” right now because they don’t care about the safety or economic advantages for their citizens. They want to grab power that they can dissolve amongst their friends even if it means sacrifices and violence. Natural resource power isn’t usually extracted by governments. You sell contracts which they can turn into soft power amongst wealthy sycophants.



  • If we’re talking war - Annexation of Greenland would probably do it.

    Once you piss off enough people with allies then historically a lot of contractual responsibilities kick in… But the new playbook like what we’ve we’ve seen in Israel is "as long as nobody in government says the word ‘genocide’ we don’t have to honor our previously signed responsibility to step in so even that’s dodgy.

    Once the US is seen as enough threat to the sovereignty of other nations who are just doing their own thing I think the response will kick in. Right now other countries are likely going to target the US’s pocketbook by decreeing various economic and banking sanctions and ratchet up the internal pressures. The US correcting it’s own listing ship through internal citizen lead processes is the good outcome and letting it basically fall into civil war is a more acceptable outcome than outside intervention from an international law perspective.

    The US has a lot of Hard power : economic development and money, millitary might, strategic bases the world over, an uncomfortable amount of the world’s nukes and a landmass that is legit difficult to wage a war on. The bar to actually interfering directly through boots on the ground intelligence related action is really high.


  • Thank you for this I do try my best to be warm!

    I have heard some folk fearmonger non-binary inclusion as some sort of theoretical pronoun police with some wild idea of disciplinary power. I know a lot of non-binary folk since we are pretty decent at identifying each other in the wild… and most of us don’t even introduce ourselves with our preferred pronouns if folk don’t make the space at a place we know we’re likely good because it’s still kind of awkward!

    We know we’re asking for a mental effort in helping us out so when it happens and people want to give us a boost it’s so magic. The amount of energy we reclaim by not having our bodies reflected back at us through words is noticeable and so appreciated. With any group of folks with needs self advocating all the time really isn’t tenable. We oftentimes just want to pick the path of least resistance even if it means putting up with stuff that’s bad for us.

    When people misgender someone by accident or say something in the moment that upon reflection wasn’t great they often are far too hard on themselves. Yeah it doesn’t feel great but you gotta step on some feet before you can dance and we’re just happy you’re dancing!


  • Hey, trans masc here,

    Love the sentiment but don’t feel like an ass. If you want to include us in the sentiment it does some great stuff! It signals to trans and non-binary people who might be in listening range but be closeted or suppressing their needs in the interest of “not making waves” that you are a safe person to be themselves around. A lot of people who “don’t know a non binary person” might not simply because the ones around them are in hiding because onboarding someone to our status is exhausting and sometimes risky so signaling that you’ve already done some the work is AMAZING.

    But that being said… Don’t feel guilty. This isn’t a game of right and wrong. “Political Correctness” is a tactic from the 90’s that really didn’t work because it was about policing. It was a cold politeness rather than a meaningful offering of solidarity or a chance to learn and there is a learning curve to allyship and thus a gratitude just for trying or considering a change. That you feel guilty is very sweet but you deserve to be comfortable and happy too. We as a community tend to celebrate people doing us a kindness, not begrudge people. Your friend showed you a spot where you could insert a moment of solidarity in the future if you wanted. That you immediately seem to want to is a rarer gift than you know.


  • DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.catoComic Strips@lemmy.worldyou are
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    Then I am sorry you have internalized the idea that you are part of a class of people who will always be derided because of what you are and that you have learned to accept less. That is a terrible place to be. I can understand rhe drive for comfort in the face of what seems like overwhelming odds.

    But for overall movements seeking to make things better, accepting the enemy’s frame of mind just isn’t acceptable. This tension will exist as long as the advocacy remains strong. It exists in my group as well and going softly into that good night never ends well for people like us. We have to work as hard as we do to convince people we are human and worth consideration.


  • There are models being marketed as being therapy dispensing models that in their terms of service are correctly described as entertainment and not endorsed by actual therapists because what AI therapy actually is is just a tool that tricks users into being their own unlicensed therapists. AI “therapy” flatters negativity bias and agrees with whatever it’s users think sounds right about themselves walking people into danger.

    We are in the zone of cocaine being available over the counter for toothaches here. Companies are being legitimately reckless in their marketing and AI is a black box by nature where companies cannot tell what is happening inside their products, they can only test them without having the manpower and counter ingenuity to test everything. If any other product lead to the death of multiple consumers or demonstrates harm to multiple people you usually pull it from the shelves and go back to the drawing board.


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    A fundamental thing lacking in your understanding of slurs is your insistance that their existence is a full negative for the community that they are levied against. It is more useful to look at the designation of slurs almost more as a form of technology those communities use both as a form of self advocacy to spread awareness of underlying prejudices and to identify individuals and groups who hold them particular opposition or threat. They aren’t just about “getting upset” or giving people an avenue to press buttons.

    Consider the “N-slur” in light of it being a technology. Those who use it are either :

    • Identifying themselves as a member of the ‘in’ group and using it as a means of solidarity.

    • Identifying themselves as an individual that believes they have “the right” to use the slur companionably thus often identifying themselves as a problem who at best doesn’t quite understand the assignment or at worst believes they can make unilateral decisions as part of a group to which they do not belong presenting a threat

    • Identifying themselves as a legitimate threat by using the word with the full weight of it’s oppressive and derogatory context.

    Those who are using this can track this use if this slur to figure out who their allies are, what are safe communities, which of their associates can be counted on to help and who is setting themselves up as an enemy. This is legitimately words as weapons of war. A technique hit upon by modern civil rights movements as a means of fighting back. The meeting place of sociology and etymology where people started looking at words beyond strict meaning. What you are attempting to do is disarm a community making use of this but in reality you are identifying yourself using this tech as the second form of threat. The one that treats advocacy as a lost cause because the idea of implicit inferiority is so ingrained you can’t see the paternalism.


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    Slurs have a couple of different ways of coming about. Calling someone “gay” in the context of being uncool or unmanly was one whete the attitude shifted but consider that because of underlying attitude of homophobia became more appearant to the average listener in the attempt to use it in context of a slur. Once something reflects the small mindedness of the speaker more than insults the listener it does lose it’s power.

    Now consider something you said about the disability community :

    But certain classes of people will always be looked down on, so those traits will always be used as insults

    There is a very large body of disability advocacy that is involved in fighting for a social attitude where this is not the case. In fact it hasn’t always been the case. Our concept of “normal” is historically more recent than you would think and people with mental disabilities in the English world were not really considered a distinct class. You are taking for granted that the disability community will be considered inferior by the wider population because you cannot imagine a state otherwise. That is ableism my friend and it doesn’t change unless you look it in the face and recognize it for what it is.

    A fundamental thing lacking in your understanding of slurs is your insistance that their existence is a full negative for the community that they are levied against. It is more useful to look at the designation of slurs almost more as a form of technology those communities use both as a form of self advocacy to spread awareness of underlying prejudices and to identify individuals and groups who hold them particular opposition or threat. They aren’t just about “getting upset” or giving people an avenue to press buttons.

    Consider the “N-slur” in light of it being a technology. Those who use it are either :

    • Identifying themselves as a member of the ‘in’ group and using it as a means of solidarity.

    • Identifying themselves as an individual that believes they have “the right” to use the slur companionably thus often identifying themselves as a problem who at best doesn’t quite understand the assignment or at worst believes they can make unilateral decisions as part of a group to which they do not belong presenting a threat

    • Identifying themselves as a legitimate threat by using the word with the full weight of it’s oppressive and derogatory context.

    This is legitimately words as weapons of war. A technique hit upon by modern civil rights movements as a means of fighting back. The meeting place of sociology and etymology where people started looking at words beyond strict meaning. What you are attempting to do is disarm a community making use of this but in reality you are identifying yourself using this tech as the second form of threat. The one that treats advocacy as a lost cause because the idea of implicit inferiority is so ingrained you can’t see the paternalism.


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    You are talking about the forces of reclamation and that historically isn’t up to people outside of the community effected. You are an agent of the majority outside the community which means if you go against the wishes of the community actively stating its harm then you are enforcing something from without which is a really good way to perpetuate a slur. Until that consensus is met by the group it is never going to lose it’s connection and doing something “for someone else’s good” is patronizing.

    You have the seeming of someone who dipped their toe in a discipline and is now using it to lord over others. I suspect however given lack of historical backdrop and advocating for the very circumstances that create slurs there are some holes in your education to address. Let’s do a little a little etymology exercise.

    If you say “A man walks down the street” what is the stated gender of the person? If you say “I think you are very nice” should I be offended at the comment on my intellect?

    Words sometimes lose their original connotations in favour of other ones. This can happen in historically very short periods and sometimes there’s no reversing the clock. Sometimes a change is there to stay.