Haters, assemble!!!
Jokes aside, I want to know what drives you to inform the rest of a website, chat, forum, or thread, that you don’t like/enjoy/want/do something.
I wanna hear what your impetus is.
Is the act cathartic? Do you have a personal, negative experience with the thing you’re complaining about? Is the impulse automatic or do you think about it every time?
The question is only as serious as you make it, but I’m curious all the same.
I like complaining
I very much dislike being negative on-line. I think we could all stand to be more empathetic and humble in our approach to others. In my on-line gaming, I almost exclusively am positive. The rare times I turn negative, is when someone starts being mean to someone. Flaming, blaming, or just posting vile stuff. THAT, I take exception to. Bullies only understand one thing, and it’s their own medicine. I’m all positivity until you post something racist, sexist, or generally vile, then I’m coming at you both guns a’blazing.
Well I dislike being positive or faking that everything’s okay just to not upset people
those are two different things. When things are bad, it’s our duty to address it, lest it become worse. But you can be positive even in the face of a crisis. There are times in my life in which I felt like my world was crumbling before my eyes, and with the benefit of hindsight, I now view those circumstances differently. Sometimes hard changes need to be made, and you can come out the other side stronger and more resilient for having survived it; often times in a better place than you were before (whether that’s physically, mentally, emotionally). Then, with those lessons learned, the next moment you feel like the sky is falling, you can remind yourself that you’ve been through bad before, and sometimes a new perspective is the only thing standing between you and acceptance/peace.
Also, if you’re having to avoid talking about things because it upsets people, then try to find a new avenue for who you speak that to. I recommend therapy, where the attention and purpose is you and your feelings. Having someone listen, and help you through difficult times/emotions, is an invaluable resource, that I hope you’re fortunate enough to be able to take advantage of.
Calls 'em as i see 'em
I try not to be an asshole and I just like sharing my opinion. I just like to bitch about the general state of affairs for various things. Be it video games or politics, I’ll bitch about anything I find to be awful. I think I do it because I want to try and help people understand why a situation is fucked up or shouldn’t be happening. For example how so many video game companies are just laying off all their employees for whatever reason they want to give you. I just like to call out bullshit when I see it. Sometimes I come off as rude when really I’m just mad that it’s happening and not really bitching about the users making the posts or comments but more towards the bullshit situations.
And I like “colorful” words.
If we don’t discuss the bad things in society, how can we ever hope to fix them?
I’m a negative person. IRL and online. In certain circles I’m considered very positive. Usually I’m faking niceties for convenience or other reasons, but other times I do actually think of the current situation or subject matter positively. This latter situation is somewhat rare though.
Here on Lemmy, I have my share of haters, mainly because I’m an agnostic, antinatalist, anarchist, antifascist. I can also get pretty misanthropic at times, and while I can indeed shut the fuck up, I sometimes don’t, and I can go oooonnnnn, sometimes pissing people off for my lack of brevity and conciseness, like with this very post.
Generally speaking, I think being negative often lines up with the reality we live in. Sure there are small things to be positive about, but overall the situation for humanity as a whole is currently pretty bleak, and a lot of the control mechanisms by which positive change can be enacted is in the hands of a select few of the rich and powerful.
The reason people post and oftentimes like negative posts, comments, discourse, etc. is because it validates and confirms their negative perspectives that oftentimes would cause them to be ostracized if they expressed them in other circles. I know that’s why I express many of my more controversial opinions here, and why I like to read various posts here on Lemmy daily. Most people here keep it real. And reality isn’t pretty right now, but at least I know I’m not the only one who sees it that way.
You seem to say it as if being negative is the goal. I don’t set out to leave a negative opinion, I just want to give my opinion. Sometimes, my opinion is negative. That’s just as valid as if my opinion was positive.
Are you looking for people who consistently and exclusively write negative comments on all platforms at all times?
This is a terrible post just because it is!
/s ;)
Because I’m a negative nancy
It really depends on the matter at hand. I think sometimes it feels cathartic, other times it’s just questionable rambling because I feel like getting it off my chest.
After a certain point, you begin to realize that some people just can’t be helped. It comes from a place of fatigue.
What do you mean by negative? In the sense that the response is insulting, or a personal attack? Generally, well adjusted people on forums websites try to avoid those, those who don’t are just assholes.
But if you mean negative as in the reply merely disagrees with your point of view, then isn’t that the point of a forums website? Short of echochambers, memes, and porn, the biggest thing on forums is two way discussions. You post a question, maybe with an idea of how people might respond, and you could get a varying degree of different responses. Some of which may offer fresh insights that you may not have had the perspective for before. Do you consider the responses in this thread to be negative?
Blowing off steam.
Lovely, warm, childhood trauma steam.
Probably mostly to warn others. Sometimes to point out information I believe is wrong. Mostly I’m trying to keep the ship on course.
Just realize that crossing the line is when you become pedantic. No one likes that, especially when it’s obvious what someone meant. Took me a while to realize that and then stop.
Always. If you aren’t communicating with the intent to exchange meaning you’re communicating in bad faith.
That is (and I’m really not joking) actually an altruistic motivation.
Good people give bad news.
