Most of my working adult life has involved struggling with untreated ADHD. It’s one of those things that a lot of people failed to understand, and when I’d explain my symptoms to them, they would often just say that it sounded like I was depressed, burnt out, and overburdened at work. While all of those things were true, executive dysfunction is more complicated and nuanced - for me, it manifests in the form of procrastination, seeking stimulation, and difficulty carrying a thread of consciousness from one sentence to the next. It can also mean that your self-esteem is constantly in the toilet.
In spite of this, I had a lot of success in early stage tech startups, which are often chaotic. You have to switch roles at a moment’s notice, going from customer support and technical resolution to product development and logistics. When things are on fire, customers are angry, and things are broken, I tend to be at my very best. It’s the slower, more tedious, repetitive tasks like manual data entry that I tend to struggle with. I have been forced onto Performance Improvement Plans more than a few times in my career - despite glowing performance reviews - and have never gotten off of one.
In spite of dropping out of college, I had managed to make a career for myself. I worked at a few tech startups, and had a really good reputation among my team members. As I continued to climb a corporate ladder and move to bigger and bigger companies, I found myself becoming burdened with larger responsibilities. I can accomplish anything I set my mind to, but I gradually turned myself into a workhorse for the entire team. My manager eventually saddled me with an enormous task where I had to develop a deeply technical presentation from scratch and give it to a live audience of over 300 engineers. To be clear - no such resource had ever been developed within the company. I guess this stemmed from me rewriting so much of the documentation so that ordinary people could understand it?
I did the best I could. I solicited advice from just about every department in the company, rewrote the whole thing several times over, and practiced my presentation in front of my manager over and over again, as they nitpicked every aspect of it. Presentation day finally came, it ended up being a huge success. For me, this was a massive accomplishment. Unfortunately, my work performance had been languishing in other areas, and I once again ended up on a PIP. My manager drove the team into the ground, and I tried to make the case that I was just about done with being treated this way.
I ended up in an HR meeting that I thought was initially being done to hash out our differences and find a path forward, but it was actually just the company kicking me out. I got a severance package, struggled for months to apply for a new job, faced a ton of rejections and self-sabotage. I smoked pot and got drunk until I had to sell all of my belongings just to survive, and then had to move back across the country to live with my dad and apply for the military. Four years later, I’m married, going to school full-time, and living a pretty okay life as a veteran.
I can relate to a lot of this! I’m 41 and just got diagnosed this year. It explains a lot of my life! I started medication this spring with Concerta and it helped but then I built up a tolerance to it and it stopped working. After spending months trying different meds I’m getting help with Focalin XR, but I’m terrified I’ll build up a tolerance to it as well so I’m trying to get as much done on a certification as I can while it’s working. Have meds helped you?
Yeah, I’m on sertraline and Adderall XR. While neither one is perfect, the baseline quality of my life has improved. It’s hard to quantify or explain, but my recall and short-term memory is a million times better. I’m currently going to school full-time, and my grades are the best they’ve ever been, even in my hardest classes.
Is homelessness unique? Probably not. How about 4 times (so far)?
How you doing now?
I quit a job after onboarding because they kept messing up my schedule. Oddly the only service they provide their clients was scheduling workers…
Was among a group of temps at a credit union. Employees were so busy, we got very little training. And spent large parts of our day with nothing to occupy our time.
After a month, supervisor walks by at end of day and asks how things are going. I say something to the effect of “could be better.” He looks surprised and says “OK, let’s discuss that tomorrow morning.” I think great, we can problem solve.
The next day turned out to be the three year anniversary of my boyfriend’s death. When I sat with supervisor and trainer and they said how are you, I let them know that I was a little emotional due to it, and started to cry a little.
Supervisor proceeded to reem me out for saying something so negative yesterday in the hearing of coworker and accused me of making a bunch of mistakes (I didn’t and had already provided evidence that I wasn’t involved) and that I obviously didn’t care about my work and that I needed to pack my things and be escorted out of the building.
In conclusion, I hope that guy spends the rest of his life with wet socks.
Woah, fuck that job with a rusty pineapple.
I said what I said.
a rusty pineapple.
That’s a new Yogi-ism for me, a mashup of “rusty pipe” and “pineapple.”
i’m currently going through it! company is slowly collapsing around me and despite promises of transparency there is no official communication from the board. we get all our information from news articles and office gossip. people are quitting left and right and no acknowledgement of this is made from above. it’s a very odd situation.
I worked in a scuba dive shop for a few months. My first day I was told to come in for orientation. I showed up and the manager was very suprised to see me there. He didn’t know I was coming because nobody told him. I thought “okay mistakes happen” then he handed me an employee handbook and told me to sit in the back and start reading.
An hour later he comes back in and asks if I had any questions about it. I said no, then we setup an app for timekeeping and I went back home.
I had my first shift a few weeks later. I had 0 retail experience and they just said go help that customer. I had no training at this point. After making a fool of myself i was mocked and asked to put some stock away instead.
After a week of that nonsense, I was moved into their smaller shop that I was to work by myself. I got 1/2 a day of “training”, zero direction on what to do in my down time and was told that the owner liked to watch the camera and if I was caught doing nothing, I would be fired.
This smaller shop had a “manager” that was never around, about 5 customers a day asking where the toilet was, and not much else to do. I wanted to quit simply because of the boredom but it got worse after I started working on their dive charter boat 2 days a week.
I a piece of equipment was found to be broken or not put away properly it was automatically my fault. We had to refill all of the dive air tanks after each trip, about 50 of them. It took a long time and I would get talked to if it took too long, or if the tanks weren’t filled correctly. You can only do one of those things safely.
Then one day my timekeeping app sends me an SMS that one of my shifts was deleted, so I went and had the day off. I came in the next day to them asking where I was. They actually changed the shift without asking me, the app said it was deleted and again that was my fault.
In summary they never trusted their staff to do anything right, and blamed us when something went wrong, even when it was out of our control like a faulty pressure gauge, or customers breaking rental equipment. I quit shortly after someone almost lost their foot on the boat from a falling tank. It’s likely only a matter of time before they have a bigger accident and I don’t want to be anywhere near that place when it happens.
I was unemployed for a while in late 2010, early 2011 and was constantly on the job search. I was a line cook previously and was looking for similar work. I finally got in at a sports bar, but they only had an opening for a host at the time, so I took it. When I went in on my third day, I found that the place had fucking burned down.
I was unemployed for another few months before finding a new job. That was a rough year or so lol.
Were you on EI still when you found the job?
That’d be a fun story to tell them why you need to restart it.
I’m guessing that EI is what you call unemployment benefits where you are? In which case, unfortunately no. Previous employer made up bullshit to fire me over so I wasn’t eligible, and I was told I didn’t work long enough at the place that burned down to qualify. My savings got almost entirely wiped out just paying rent and buying groceries.
It was a dark time full of struggles, but I got through it and I’m doing pretty well now. The silver lining is that, when I’m having a rough week, I can think back to how that chunk of life was going and know that I’ve gotten through worse. I was homeless for about two months a bit later, but by then I found a job and knew that I’d find stability soon. Things didn’t actually start getting good until I quit the kitchen career. And I’m one of the lucky few who never even got sucked into the hard drug aspect of that life. Never even smoked a cigarette lol.
Ya that’s our employment insurance. Glad you were able to get back on your feet!
I wasn’t fired, but I resigned from a brewery/coffee shop I worked at after only 7 shifts. Context: I’m trans and in the closet still.
Hired as a cook for this brewery, and based on the interview, I’m one of the more “experienced” cooks on the team, and they (owners) were hoping I’d be able to help make the kitchen more professional. It’s a part-time gig, so sure, I’ll do what I can.
Well, the kitchen was too small for the facility. They would have to stop taking orders on busy nights an hour before close because they didn’t have the space to get through the 40+ orders that came in within 5 minutes of each other. Orders from both the bar, the cafe they had, and to go orders.
They’re menu was fine, surprisingly, they didn’t stretch themselves too thin. But the staff were… Rough. The kitchen supervisor couldn’t believe I owned a chef’s coat, nevermind actually showed up to work in one since everyone just wore t-shirts (no aprons, as far as I could find). I told the owners they should have chef coats, it’s a safety thing, etc, idk if that ever happened.
Anyway, the kitchen supe would spend 90% of the shift video chatting with various friends/family/etc during his shift, loudly dropping the n-word every other word while we’re cooking and cleaning and prepping. All on the line, not even in an office or something, in the middle of the kitchen. I’ve had managers who are lazy, that’s fine, but I’ve never had one that unprofessional.
There were like 2-3 shifts though where the bulk of the conversation amongst the kitchen staff were LGBTQ+ focused: I’m not sure I could love my daughter if she was a lesbian, I don’t understand this stuff, it’s a mental illness, trans people, etc. If it had happened once, fine, whatever. But over 2-3 different shifts, and the supervisor is taking part? No, I’m not cool with that.
My last shift, I’m annoyed and pretty over my coworkers based on their views I got to listen to, but trying to just get through it. I’m working the deep fryer, reheating some chicken wings. Pull the basket up and grab the thermometer to temp them when the supervisor calls over, “Oh, no, you don’t need to temp those, they’re already cooked!”
I pulled him aside after and asked him about that, and he goes, “Yeah, we already cooked them to 165°F before we cooled and stored them. You’ve just gotta get em heated up again, you don’t have to temp them.”
I send an almost 2-page long resignation to the owners the next day, explaining that I did not appreciate the conversations taking place in the kitchen and the opinions about people my coworkers had, people who may very well he standing in the room with them.
But I really harped on the fact that the kitchen supervisor, the supervisor, didn’t seem to be familiar with health code policies. Any good that’s already been cooked and then cooled must be brought back to 165°F when being reheated, that’s, like, one of those food safety things every pro cook should know, nevermind a supervisor.
I advised they may want to send their supervisors for food safety retraining before they made a customer sick, and that there were too many issues within the kitchen for me to help them without basically cleaning house and starting over.
Are they still in business?
Yep, and I have friends who have a lot of their social events and stuff there. I usually politely decline if I’m invited.
I didn’t go to a job because I wanted to watch trailer park boys. Don’t know how unique that is though, it’s a pretty good show.
Nice fucking kitties
Priorities. I like that.
Started a new job, when I arrived on the first day they didn’t know where to put me and didn’t know what I was going to do. So they sat me in the boss’s office and told me to read a book. After a few hours, the boss showed up and immediately started on “imagine starting a new job and not wearing a plain shirt!” (My business shirt was white with widely spaced faint grey stripes). Sacked immediately. They still paid me for two weeks though.
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Worked at a place that laser-engraves funeral urns. Owner was a huge Trump fan, but fuck it, I figured I’d just never talk about politics.
Turns out that every fucking day, he would sit down and spend 45 minutes talking politics, MAGA bs, blah blah blah.
So after one of his long sessions, he sees me kinda ignoring him (actually trying to do the work he hired me for!) and he says, “So you a Democrat?”
I told him no, but since I was only paying half attention him, I blurted out that I was actually a Socialist.
So after that, every fucking day, he reads me some article on his phone about how horrible and terrible Socialist theory is.
After several days, I’m in full ignore mode, just working. And then he says something to the effect of if I didn’t like what he was saying, not to let the door hit my ass on the way out.
So I brushed it off, and just said, “nah, all good. Your politics don’t bother me.”
But the more I thought about his pissy attitude, the more and more pissed I got. So when I took lunch, I just didn’t go back. No calls from him. No texts. Nothing. And I didn’t call or text them either.
I got a new job the next week, and never thought much of it. Then all of a sudden, I realized that even tho I was telling myself I quit, the reality is, it probably counts as being fired.
And I went my whole life never being fired. So I was kinda bummed that I let him talk me into just leaving. I really should have given notice.
But it’s not like I worked there long enough to even up on a resume or anything. So I guess I can just pretend I never worked there. lol
Many many years ago I worked a job where we had to keep an eye on the call center call queue/employees call status on the phone.
Someone always has to keep an eye on it, so if you need to go for a break, even just to use the washroom, if you’re the only one on shift, you asked one of the team leads to watch it.
Had been like that for years.
Well, we had a brand new manager for our team who was an offsite manager at another call center, and my other coworker was in a very long meeting that day so I was all alone watching things.
I was really hungry, feeling sick from it, so I asked one of the team leads as usual to watch things while I took a break and went across the street to grab some fast food and come back.
Well, while I was gone for like 10minutes, the manager had called our desk (we have voice mail) and realized no one was there.
He reamed me out for having left the desk unattended, and how I should have waited for my coworkers meeting to end which wasn’t ending anytime soon.
Didn’t care that I’d had a TL cover for me as we’d always done.
Next day, HR calls me into their office and puts me on formal notice for it.
I quit the next day. Fuck that shit.