A trans parent would likely still want to be called “Mom” or “Dad”, I assume. At least that’s the case with the few trans parents I know.

Parents don’t usually use “daughter” or “son” as pronouns, so I don’t think it would come up with non-binary children.

Do children of non-binary parents call their parents by their first name? It seems unlikely that they say “Parent, may I please have more screen time?”.

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    Is this a real question?

    They would just call them by their name or by a nickname. Or by mom or dad if the parents don’t care about that.

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      i mean, this is the real answer yeah. but i’m liking @Nemo@slrpnk.net’s answer and will begin enforcing ‘honored ancestor’ instead of my name.

      edit: if it doesnt like properly this time it’s never going to…

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    Probably depends on the kid. In the right house with the right mindset I bet parents could use first names. Otherwise it will probably be a special word to all of them, maybe something the kid calls them one day that sticks.

    Maybe the parents will look to the internet or peers for answers and get stuff like “guardian” “my other parent” etc but ultimately the real question you should ask is how a child addresses their two same-gendered parents, maybe there’s something to contexutalize there.

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      I was going to say it’s definitely a case by case basis and what both parents and kids are comfortable with. With same-gender couples, I’ve often seen with my friends using two different gendered honorifics, like “mom” and “mama” or “dad” and “papa”.

      With trans people, often times it depends on when they came out. If before the child was born, or they were really young, I know a lot of parents will switch what they use, but for many people the title becomes something beyond gender. I’ve met a trans woman who transitioned later in life and was still “dad” to her kids because her role as a dad didn’t invalidate her gender as a woman. In the same vein, I’ve known nonbinary folk who have kept “mom” or “dad” after coming out, went with a less traditional title, or even just made one up either something fun and ungendered (think something like “babi”). I’ve also heard people just using a diminutive of they’re name, like rather than the kid saying “my parent, Sam” it becomes “my Sammy”.

      The fun thing about language is that it changes to fit the needs of people and groups, so we can just make it up as we go!

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    Tata instead of mama or papa? But also, what about parent’s siblings, or sibling’s children?

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    The words “mom” and “dad” are both derived from baby babble, syllables babies have an easy time making.

    I therefore suggest that an enby parent should be a child’s wawa

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    My friend’s father transitioned to a woman but she kept calling her “Dad”. Not to invalidate her identity just that they were both happy to continue describing their relationship with that term.

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    My niece is non-binary and we run into this issue. Now, I just ask people who identify as non-binary. “When there isn’t a good non-binary term to use, do you prefer me to use male or female words?”

    So far, the non-binary people I’ve asked seem to appreciate the question.

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      I’m sure they do.

      I think the gender inclusive term for niece and nephew is “nibling”, which sounds like a Pokemon!

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    My nephew has a dad and a mawpa, but there are lots of options out there. It’s wise to choose syllable sounds that babies can easily pronounce.