if you think I’m tone policing, block me and report my comment. Don’t go around accusing people of it to further argue with them

No one claims it isn’t, but taking your mental distress out on others is also not helping

Amongst other things claiming that everyone in blahaj is American is kinda just a dick move. No one owes you a space to spew your “tough love” so to speak. Young people in and outside of America get to hear it daily already from people in their vicinity. You’re not helping.

I have to actively pretend to be someone I am not in a place outside of America, so why would I let you berate me on how I should be willing to have they/them pronouns be used on me? Funny thing is, I sincerely do not care about the pronouns used for me, but the way you go about communicating with people just makes me sick of it.

Your speech is no different than my family telling me to act a certain way to be more palpable to the “cishet population”. I and other people are not obligated to listen to the ramblings of a mentally distressed queer person who thinks we’re all just a bunch of cry babies.

Eggs have a natural membrane that is removed through washing in the USA amongst other places, for example. This membrane allows eggs a longer shelflife and also allows them to be kept unrefrigerated

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I’m sorry, but dealbreakers are dealbreakers for a reason. And dealbreakers aren’t stuff that should be treated like it can be changed easily. Dealbreakers are things like political alignments, interest in having children, marriage and other stuff.

And asking women to give a guy they don’t like “just a chance” has not done anything ever for anyone, seriously. The amount of times I hear about women giving the “weird guy” a second chance has always ended in the guy either seriously overstepping boundaries or taking the later rejection even worse. I have yet to meet a “weird guy” who hasn’t done something seriously heinous later down the line.

And I am certain you didn’t mean it that way, but saying “It’s ok for you to help your dates avoid these” makes it sound like you’re advocating for invalidating womens opinions, as if they can’t make decisions for themselves and need help from a man to make the “right” one.

Love how drag lives rent free in your head. Seriously, get a hobby dude, obsessing about a trans person this much is not healthy.

At any point you could have simply blocked drag, but no, engaging with drag is so much better, isn’t it? Now you’ve made posts upon posts and comments upon comments about how blahaj is weird, about how drag does not deserve to have drag’s pronouns respected, and how admins/mods/whatever on blahaj are bad.

To what end? To tell the greater user base that your opinion is superior? To make it known that drag is weird and in turn potentially cause drag to be harassed? To have the admins and mods be harassed? To have individual users with non-standard pronouns harassed?

You say you don’t care and wish Blahaj well, but your posts and comments say otherwise. My friend, it might not have been your goal, but your posts and comments are rather inciting in nature, people will get harassed because of you.

Honey is getting paid by shops to only serve you the coupons that Shop wants you to see, potentially keeping you from discovering a better deal on your own.

The coupons honey applies may not always be the best deal around. Honey works with online shops to only serve you the coupons that specific online shop wants you to see, causing you to be ripped off on occasion.

Simply put, there might be a 20% off coupon that can be applied to your cart, but because Honey is getting paid by the online shop, they are only going to show you at best the 5% off coupon. This makes Honey redundant, because neither Honey nor the online shop tell you when they are working together, which is why you can never trust honey to actually give you the best deal.

Mastodon is annoyingly gatekeepy too. They are super heavy on content warnings, and tend to not play nice when someone doesn’t respect those unspoken rules.

Also, servers are much more likely to defederate with each other, due to what some perceive as “minor scuffles”.

All in all I understand why people prefer Bluesky over Mastodon, it’s simpler and the search function isn’t borked to hell and back either. Blocking is also incredibly effective on Bluesky, if you block someone neither you nor they will ever see each other’s content again.

it’s fine, i should have included the second part in my original comment

You’re the one who pulled baking into it though? I was not required to entertain your baking argument at any point, so why are you acting as if you have the moral high ground?

The argument was simply: Cooking and Gardening are oftentimes chores that fall on women, so it’s kind of interesting to see those as attractive hobbies for men. The last part wasn’t said, but implied, and i hoped people would realize it themselves, but alas now we’re here

Of course, how could I forget! Thanks for reminding me

Hey man, great effort, but just to remind you the OG argument was: Cooking/Gardening can be a chore and a hobby

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/recipe book

Hey I translated the word as it is. If you want to suddenly change the argument from cooking vs baking to recipe books, I don’t see why you’re complaining.

Baking is a chemistry and following an exact recipe unless you’re very good at what you do, cooking is free form and putting a spin on recipes.

It’s not a cookbook either

But lawn mowing would be taking care of the garden if it had grass in it, and would be gardening by extension, that was the crux of the argument.

I sort of assumed at one point that squid is American, kind of weird that taking care of one specific type of plant is somehow not considered gardening in america