• DoubleDongle@lemmy.world
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    I still remember being told that in high school, and at 35 I can say with reasonable confidence that it was in fact the worst part of my life, not the best. Fuck you Mr. Ford, you were wrong, and you were an asshole, and if I can ever be arsed to locate your grave, I’ll piss on it.

  • ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world
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    The whole “high school is the best years of your life” thing was always total bullshit. The drugs are much better in college.

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    I think this is just a saying that lost its meaning. Youth is the time you don’t have to worry about much and you can live without regrets because most of your decisions don’t have real consequences (aside from the obvious ones).

    Obviously to young people they don’t see it that way. In hindsight I could have done a lot more as a kid but I didn’t for fear of whatever the hell I was afraid of. Definitely not the best years though.

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      it also just doesn’t work at all for many people, like what if you grew up poor and couldn’t afford to do the fun carefree things? what if you had no friends? what if things that other people consider mundane made you vomit from anxiety?

    • A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world
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      Yeah other than my country falling apart my life is better at 39 than pretty much ever before. I’m genuinely happy. Again, other than the country stuff.

      I damn sure wasn’t happy and confident like this at 18 or whatever. I’m hitting my stride.

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        Exactly. In youth, everything is important, and everything is a big fucking deal.

        Over time, especially if you’re introspective (not everyone has this ability, it seems), you’ll come to temper those expectations.

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      Back when I was in school they told me I was supposed to enjoy my youth and that it would be about the best time of my life. What they actually did was to demotivate me regarding my future. School was hell. Life is much better nowadays.

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        Yeah when I grew up I was a confused bag of hormones who had not yet learnt to deal with anything.

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        This all or nothing thinking often just turns into an excuse for doing nothing.

        I can make a better world by making things better in my immediate vicinity, without dying for it. I can help one person at a time, and it might not scale to some kind of globally noticeable improvement, but it can still a difference to each of those people, and was worth whatever effort or sacrifice involved.

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          Being a good little slave doesn’t fix things.

          Voting and recycling isn’t going to fix a single problem, because that’s what we’ve been doing for 50 years and things got worse.

          It’s become painfully obvious to many people now that peaceful protest is ineffective and ignored.

          The real issue is too many people have become complacent in being domesticated.

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            you realize there are other things one can do, right? like, the most effective thing a single person can do is just to build a local community, to engage in mutual aid.

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      I’ve never really had much of a family. The whole family bond thing seems like a farce. I love my parents because they were good parents, not simply because they were my parents.