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Twitter got abandoned 1 month after the fascist bought it. Account deleted 6 months ago.
Reddit is on transition right now. I’m still checking it, but the time i spend there is much less, since i made a Lemmy account.
When Twitter-man did the salute, I deleted my old account (hadn’t used it in years anyway) When Facebook-man said “no more fact checking,” I deleted my old facebook (only kept it to keep in contact with, like, 2 people) When Tumblr-man banned the porn, I deleted my tumblr (you can guess why I had it) When Reddit-man said he wants to paywall the biggest subs, I deleted my reddit (also got banned but I prefer to say I did it for a better reason)
I’ve seen news that tumblr has changed/is changing, and they’re even implementing some form of activitypub (Fediverse) integration. I don’t have stakes here, just curious: does that change your position any, as an ex-user now on fedi?
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Well, your comment was medically inaccurate and lacking in empathy.
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I think arguing about medical techniques is boring, so let’s talk about empathy. You said you wouldn’t get the surgery if you were so inclined. I don’t think you’ve bothered to understand what being so inclined means. I don’t think you’ve considered being so triggered by a part of your body that you’d rather die than keep it. That’s what the situation is for a lot of trans people. I don’t think you’ve thought about that. I think you’ve imagined transition as a nice-to-have, instead of lifesaving medical care. You should do more to understand the feelings of trans people who seek surgery.
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8099405/
The regret rate is 1%. In the context of major surgery, that’s a miracle. You don’t get that for hip replacements or heart transplants.
But I wanted to talk about medical techniques… :(
None of your business, frankly. Those are our genitals and we’re human beings not medical curiosities.
Asking us to defend publicly that our genitals are “good enough” by deep diving into the details of how a very complex and advanced surgery is done is utterly dehumanizing behavior. Anyway, I’ve literally never had a man say he felt there was something off with my genitalia and that’s including men who I never disclosed to & later asked me about pregnancy risks (implying they still believed I was cis). So this person is utterly misinformed and frankly speaking out of his ass.
Don’t ask again. Be kind and respect people’s privacy when the topic is about their genitalia. Thanks.
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Maybe if you don’t want to be judged for your views on trans people’s feelings, you could not tell everyone what you think trans people feel.
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If I were a cis guy, I wouldn’t start online arguments about how I think I’d feel if I were trans
That’s the dumbest thing I’ve heard so far to get banned for.
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Well yeah. It’s openly critical of the sexual function of people who have had those proceedures. The trans community as a whole are often depicted as mutilated and less functional by transphobes or people who want to devalue them as valid romantic options. Since access to those medical services are actively under fire that critique isn’t value neutral and it isn’t in the context of what unaltered sexual function is like for people with dysphoria whom often register a marked improvement in overall function from getting over the mental blocks.
The people I know who have had surgeries have been quite happy with the outcome. While it’s true the surgery options regarding bottom surgery for trans men require one to make some decisions about what functions to focus on, framing them as ugly and “barely functional” is insulting. Think about what it would be like to hear someone else critique the choices you’ve made that have improved your life experiences in a way that frames you as deficient and devalued.
Edit : During this comment chain this guy has self identified as a cis man - so to summerize, this is a random guy saying a set of surgeries and care plan created to address body issues he does not experience is not something he would choose because they are subpar. Yup. Real valid opinion right there. Totally not a smokescreen for anything nasty. /s
Please don’t fall for this dreck.
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And in your second paragraph, see how you had to add ugly to my statement to make it malicious and false, that is you projecting onto me, not me
Ah so “barely even cosmetically complete” doesn’t register as you calling them aesthetically displeasing? Fuck off.
The framing as it being a personal choice not to pursue those options are the thinnest veneer of setting yourself up for this reaction to be shocked and appalled that someone would call you out. Even if you were trans yourself framing it the way you did before would register as you being an ass to other people in your community.
Troll behavior.
He is a good disingenuous troll.
People who undergo affirmation surgery are told all those facts before hand. This person doesn’t know the process.
I have a trans Best friend and asked if they just wanted to live as a gay man BECAUSE of the above facts. Thier response was " I want to live as a woman." Living a certain way is more important to some then others.
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Ah yes, “just stating your opinions” “echo chambers” and the calls that you are being oppressed and policed, that I am both a narcissist and a weak little trans weenie who needs to shut themselves away where I can’t hear your big strong ideas.
It’s the full right wing bingo card. Do you lot ever get tired of clutching those pearls?
Don’t answer I know you will die with those things in a death grip.
YRORURRE
Things i have stopped using- X, Facebook, Instagram, Reddit, Coca Cola, Pepsi, Lays, McDonalds, Burger King, Netflix, Walmart. Things where i have minimized consumption - Amazon, Best Buy, Steam, YouTube. Things where I am tied in and can’t make a difference- Android, Windows, AWS, Gmail, Intel/AMD, MS Office (official productivity tools). Actually i don’t mind going minimalistic to F over US companies.
Just build your own open source versions of all that and you’ll be fine
I haven’t gone that far, but I refuse to use Facebook, or Amazon.
Facebook, because it’s a shithole of ignorance, stupidity, and cruelty, and it brainwashes older people.
Amazon, because they hurt local Mom and Pop businesses, and I don’t like the way they treat the warehouse workers.
switch to linux
i use gmail but i use thunderbird to check it . working on a new address. if your using Windows consider running something like OOshutup10+ to stop M$ spying. we use LibreOffice at work except the one office lady can’t use anything but excel . Linux on my home pc’s , wish we could at work… Good job on the stopping , i’m currently doing the same. F the US.
I agree with all the Linux comments but another thing you could do is use FOSS self-hostable front-ends to those proprietary services like invidious and newpipe (android) for youtube, redlib for reddit, nitter for twitter etc. You don’t have to host them yourself, there’s already plenty of people hosting their own instances.
Aside from removing ads which you can already do with an adblocker (which takes 1 revenue stream away from them) it lets you browse privately without any data collection which would be sold to advertisers (taking away their 2nd revenue stream) plus it frees you from the clutches of the algorithm, it helped stopping my ADHD from leaving me 2 binge yt vids for hours on end.
About the Android, he can replace it with GrapheneOS if he got almost any Pixel device
But then you’re buying the phone from google, which is not great if you’re trying to boycott google.
I’m only on reddit to bring people here. Because we do have cookies.
How are they gonna eat them through those helmets they never take off?
Up the butt.
Idk,.I’m finding it might actually be useful to spread local information if you stick to some local subreddits
I bow down to your intelligence.
Reddit isn’t as bad as Twitter. Though it’s heading that way. But there is an alternative that is 90% as good.
What’s annoying is how stubborn they are about moving over to Lemmy. I know it’s not super straightforward, but it’s also not nearly as complicated as they make it sound.
Well, aren’t we all stubborn when it comes to doing new things?
My guess is that it will be younger people who will go to Lemmy (like Reddit before had been).
Whoohoo I’m young 🥳
Most people use reddit on mobile. All you gotta do is tell them to use on of the many apps and sign up that way. It’s stupid easy to do.
Which, like, how?
The Reddit app fucking sucks and they forced all the good ones to shut down.
people don’t realize (and don’t care) there’s an alternative. The point of the reddit app is to make it as easy as possible for someone to access and consume content. I realize it takes literally seconds to set up a lemmy account but it requires way more thinking to interact with this platform than being spoon fed from an algorithm
What apps do you recommend for Android? I’m using Sync which is pretty nice, but always interested to hear other opinions
Big fan of jerboa.
I was a RIF user, and tried all the apps. Boost is what I ended up with because you can make it pretty much look just like RIF.
Dude I was a diehard RIF user, talklittle is the GOAT. I use his app for tildes.net which is also great.
Thanks for the rec, I’ll check it out
Tildes was good at first but anyone who disagrees on that platform gets banned. I had enjoyed it until I was banned for disagreeing with people on their healthy at any size bullshit.
I actually enjoy the smaller community here, it feels like old reddit. Like the good ole days.
Relating to this trying to convince any of my friends to try a new platform or program lol. Yeah, using Voyager on my iPhone and it’s pretty straightforward
The lemmy community is a very specific subset of reddit’s. Reddit has a somewhat more diverse set of opinions and interests. Despite lemmy not having a specific algorithm, it ends up being an echo chamber nonetheless, a bit more than reddit imo.
That and of course the fact that if you remove political content and tech/linux, there is hardly anything left.
id argue its better.
What’s the alternative?
Lemmy of course
Not quite there yet. Not until niche communities rise up and become commonplace.
75% then.
lol more like 0.1%
Lemmy has 50,000 active users. Reddit has 50 million. We have a long way to go before there are enough people on here for niche communities to become a thing.
What’s Twitter?
A rich kid’s personal Attention Gathering App.
I use Twitter and reddit for porn, nothing else anymore. People/communities I follow are ghost towns elsewhere. Everytime I point this out, people get butthurt, yet none of them link to their porn profile.
Post the (adorable, lanky, femboy, who has glasses and a thick uncut cock) porn, and as the saying goes, ‘they will cum’.
Not judging but why those over dedicated sites?
It’s hard to find places dedicated to foreskin (the /c is just crickets), cbt, estim… tons more. Even harder to find ones that aren’t just shells for their onlyfans. I’ve been checking every few months for the 🐦 I follow to hop to bluesky or mastodon, and only around a quarter have done so thus far. For reddit, where else can I find a vast array of kink content that is getting fresh stuff daily? Like actually, where? I’ve been searching the internet for a long time, and besides FurAffinity, e621, reddit and occasionally twitter, it’s table scraps for any sort of quality kink content.
E: I should also point out that I’m gay, a bit of interest in androgynous individuals, so most places don’t float my boat
Have you heard of FetLife? Sounds like it might be what you’re looking for.
I actually have an account there, but haven’t poked at it since I made the account. Guess it’s time I had another look.
Hell, most porn boards are dead too outside of the main/most vanilla ones.
uhhh, I’m 4/5, how important is being uncut? It’s not like I had much choice in the matter lol.
It’s a plus, but definitely not a requirement~ 🥺
Well, I have a crippling addiction to sexy femme outfits and shoving things in my butt if you wanted to sponsor some direct content 💋
thanks. i thought i was alone in this struggle. it is also why i keep on calling it titter.
X, Facebook, threads, Instagram, Whatsapp, Amazon Prime, Reddit
Amazon Prime is the only one that’s been hard for me to kick…
Really? I go out of my way to search on duckduckgo when looking for products and filtering out Amazon.
Its been easy for me. My hatred of that man makes it worth the effort.
That is the one that’s killing me too. I just received an email that my subscription date is coming up. I want to cancel, at least my soul really wants me to cancel. But my broken body, limited $$, and limited mobility makes me feel like it would be cutting of my nose. It is really difficult to get to, never mind around, local stores.
If it helps, one of main arguments of the antitrust lawsuit against Amazon that the Biden administration opened was that Amazon routinely, actually, costs you money because they use their platform to offer more expensive options in your searches first and other means: https://www.ftc.gov/news-events/news/press-releases/2023/09/ftc-sues-amazon-illegally-maintaining-monopoly-power (I’m not sure if that link with detail or with a much clarity as wherever I first read it but I can’t recall where I originally read it 3 or so months ago, I’m afraid).
The only major advantage that I’ll fully admit Prime has is speed of delivery; I admit I do use it when our cats run out of food and I dropped the ball on making sure we had more or I need filters for our air purifiers that just noted they need new ones.
But, even if you can find cheaper versions on Amazon, it can become easy to fall for the setup of their site if you use it by default all the time.
Could always pick up piracy. Hard to beat a 100% off coupon.
Simply pick up uBlock Origin and browse some community-vetted streaming sites on FMHY. (Short for Free Media Heck Yeah, a site that showcases community-vetted sites.)
That’s just streaming, no downloading. Simply find streams of whatever shows you’re invested in and binge as usual!
I’ve even gone as far as taking old laptops of mine and having them full screen these sites on startup. Then, I simply hook the laptop up to my TV via HDMI, plug in a Bluetooth keyboard, and binge away!
Heck yeah brother
Piracy makes it hard to buy bird seed you need delivered the next day for your birds though
Oh right, shit
I forgot that Amazon Prime was more than content streaming
Uhhhhh
Replace Amazon Prime with patience and foresight
No ethical consumption under capitalism.
EDIT: I should specify I’m not saying that you shouldn’t try to boycott where you can, just that sometimes doing business with these evil corporations is unavoidable unless you want to live off the grid.
to you, the 9 other likers and the one disliker:
I’d argue “under unregulated capitalism” and would love to hear how Im wrong here: When you buy an apple from a farmer in EU thats local to your small town, I’d say thats pretty ethical? Isnt it??!
Yeah, “capitalism” here means specifically “late-stage capitalism.”
Now also actually discuss. Would love to know “how” I’m wrong
You’re not, I’m agreeing with you.
Yes but no. I see the issue in terms of late stage capitalism too - but I think in a sibling comment this discussion already happened.
Your example is fine. It’s not an option for most people to be able to source everything they need where the supply chain doesn’t rely on exploitation of labor and resource extraction somewhere along the process. Whether it’s in the materials used by the producer, the logistics in goods transport(oil & gas, shipping, warehousing, etc), or manufacturing of goods (labor, production house, etc…), the chain relies on exploitation somewhere along the way.
Buying the apple from your local farmer still relies on the oil industry to run farm equipment or transit of the product. By and large this is minimize when buying local from independent producers. Those, however, are often more expensive.
The consumer is the last step of exploitation. Where the profit stems from. Again, your local farmer probably isn’t extorting you, but your local grocery store probably is.
So “how” is there no regulation solution – my initial statement in question
Sure regulate it then, effectively, and cut out any international trade which allows for the procurement of goods through a non-regulated system. Find a common agreement of what regulation is and find a way to ensure no one has an incentive to break that regulation. Find a way to ensure that a capitalist cannot accrue such wealth as to influence politics (or skirt whatever law you want against it).
The only people I’ve heard who want NO regulation are AnCaps and yeah lol no - (and also they still want property rights ig).
People just want a better system than what we have now. Which is laissez-faire capitalism. Beyond that there’s the political philosophical aspect that “capitalism” can and does effectively mean rule by the wealthiest.
Lot’s of people would be happy with a market system in a socialist society. Lots of people want Anarchism. Lots of people want Communism(the good or bad kind depending on who you ask).
Id just love to see more corporations being like Mondragon(spanish) in the top ranks (i.e. stock corpos) but I would not want governments specifically to gain ownership forcefully.
So I’d call it regulated capitalism - as you said, just not paleo libertarian laissez-faire as we clearly see how that doesnt work once all markets are established (and even the competition phase was, as we all should know, pretty questionable historically cough imperialism cough)
I buy bread from the local baker who is known as the German baker because they make kickass brotchen and these fantastic sesame and marzipan (my autocorrect said marsupial and while I do not doubt their skill I doubt their gluten) twists. They were across the parking lot from my first job and I did not know it but they had also just opened that year.
Buying an apple from a local farmer is not capitalism
How can you convince anyone to get off these ? Everyone I’ve showed lemmy to is terrified it’s a virus, and what chat platforms are there besides messenger that we can convince anyone to go to? Maybe I need smarter friends, lol.
What you’re describing is intentional. Keeping people dumb about the tech they’re using while maintaining messaging like “Facebook works day and night to keep you safe” was the point all along so that people don’t understand what they’re doing. Granted that extends far beyond social media, but still
They don’t realize it’s the big shiny companies that are actually scamming them and stealing their data.
It is a very big ask… For chat i moved to Signal and convinced my closest relatives and friends to humor me and get the app, but they didn’t let go of Whatsapp. It’s lonely but i enjoy the quietness, and do not miss the endless groups!
Maybe some government officials will keep you company by inviting you into their war-plan discussions.
To be fair, Lemmy’s UI does it no favors; I can’t entirely blame your friends for thinking it looks sketch.
I was never put off by it, but I tend to like less shiny things.
One of my phone browsers has warned me that one Lemmee instance is a scam, that doesn’t help if it is happening to others.
Name and shame. Which browser and which instance?
And is it just something like an SSL error (i.e. the instance screwing up), or is it specifically some kind of anti-Lemmy disinformation?
DuckDuckGo, and .ml.
Well, keeping people out of .ml is basically public service
That was the goal of big corporations and more simplification over time and less customization, went from webdev not seeming viable since every mf could make their own website and would to everyone being incompetent to the point they cant use websites and can only use the few popular apps.
I managed to make my mum use signal, which means literally anyone can use it.
Out of those, the only one I use is Whatsapp… kinda hard to get away from it where I live, literally everyone I know in real life uses it
WhatsApp is kinda nice for international communication
“your’re”
Hmmm…
your right
An impressive amount of incorrect.
That’s piratephobic!
Just covering all theire bases
Theiy’re*
I’m vomiting, stop
I prefer theyire’‘’’ but I like you too
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Well, I still wouldn’t consider using Reddit to be near as bad as using Shitter.
Spez would be very disappointed to hear you say that. He would immediately shoot another DM to Elon telling him he’s trying real hard to be just like him.
